2019 Issue 5 Sep/Oct - Focus Mid-Tenn Magazine
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lgbt seniors<br />
DOES OUR AGE IMPACT<br />
THE VALUE OF PRIDE?<br />
story by Mike Smith<br />
Certainly, arguments have been made that the older we are,<br />
the more importance we place on the value of Pride and its<br />
hard-fought celebrations. Then again, many younger gays will<br />
suggest that there is no way one could enjoy non-stop pride events<br />
more than themselves.<br />
They are prideful and<br />
wear their pride pridefully,<br />
damnit. And, of course,<br />
to most they are both<br />
right; one is hard pressed<br />
to find someone in the<br />
LGBT+ community who<br />
doesn’t value the work that<br />
has been done since the<br />
Stonewall riots to allow us<br />
the freedoms to celebrate<br />
who we are openly and<br />
yes, pridefully. So, does<br />
our age impact how we<br />
feel about pride and more<br />
importantly, its value?<br />
I know of two brothers<br />
in their 40s/50s who are<br />
both openly gay. Only six<br />
years apart in age, their<br />
experiences are quite<br />
different. Both from rural<br />
America, the eldest of the<br />
two — not having LGBT+<br />
community role models<br />
as a child — had to find his<br />
own path and went off to<br />
college and did just that and<br />
connected with his tribe<br />
and began to connect with<br />
others to celebrate Pride.<br />
Still somewhat careful<br />
with when and where to<br />
display his pridefulness and<br />
only when he and his friends<br />
could retreat out of town<br />
would they truly celebrate<br />
— attend the events, the<br />
parade, wear their prideful<br />
attire, etc. Pride celebrations<br />
provided a certain<br />
“coverage” and safety that<br />
the older brother hadn’t<br />
experienced until his 20s.<br />
By the time the younger<br />
of the brothers rose to an<br />
age that he was beginning<br />
to become comfortable in<br />
his gayness, he had his older<br />
brother who introduced him<br />
to Pride, but also a queer<br />
community which provided<br />
sanctuary as he continued to<br />
explore his sexuality.<br />
While Pride celebrations<br />
were certainly fun and still<br />
somewhat taboo to his<br />
straight friends or work<br />
community, he had been<br />
introduced to the gay<br />
lifestyle by his brother,<br />
therefore not feeling as<br />
though festivities were his<br />
only place to connect — he<br />
had found a community<br />
before he experienced his<br />
first pride events.<br />
Their experiences clearly<br />
different, but more valuable<br />
to one than the other?<br />
Perhaps this isn’t about Pride<br />
— the festivities — at all, but<br />
simply about our time in the<br />
march to equality with Pride<br />
as a marking point annually<br />
in one’s life.<br />
Older generations had<br />
to secretly engage with<br />
their community, while<br />
nowadays, every brand out<br />
there slaps the rainbow<br />
on their product, and we<br />
can’t hide from it. We<br />
are all prideful—even our<br />
toilet paper and shoes are<br />
prideful it seems.<br />
Pride’s value is derived<br />
from each of our own<br />
personal experiences. From<br />
the black trans woman<br />
who threw the first brick<br />
at Stonewall 50 years ago<br />
to the straight teenage<br />
allies, to the six-year-old<br />
who walked in this year’s<br />
first Pride Parade right<br />
here in Nashville – the Pride<br />
experience is personal and<br />
you bet, has immeasurable<br />
value, no matter our age.<br />
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