Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Sue, but submissive to Diane. His kink activities with each of his partners stays
aligned with his relationship role, but when he attends his local BDSM group
play parties, he is equally likely to assume the role of a Top or a Bottom.
I am fairly certain that, as a result of what I have written here, I will be deluged
with countless letters, messages and emails asking me to divulge the
“authoritative source” that has served as the wellspring for this unique method
of categorizing Switches. To those folks, I can only point to the nearest bottle of
tequila. As far as I know, I am the only one crazy enough to have made such an
attempt and, frankly, I’m beginning to think that maybe there was a darn good
reason why people way smarter than me didn’t try it.
If You Are a Switch
If you are a Switch, or if you are beginning to suspect that you might be one, my
advice to you would be to embrace who you are, and refuse to be pressured into
having to decide between the two ends of the dominance-spectrum, especially if
you are perfectly comfortable sliding back and forth along its length. On a
completely unrelated side note, I probably shouldn’t get too comfortable saying
“sliding back and forth along its length.”
For most people, their dominance orientation is no more a choice than their
sexual orientation. It is simply a matter of who they are. It develops and
sometimes changes as they mature, just like every other aspect of their
personality. It is hardly the set-in-concrete, black-and-white proposition that
some people seem to think it is.
Virtually no one would feel justified in demanding that a bisexual pick a
heterosexual or homosexual preference and just stick to it, yet there has never
been a shortage of people who think it’s perfectly acceptable to make similar
demands of Switches.
If you happen to be one of those people, perhaps now would be a good time to
rethink your approach.