Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

a better partner. This usually consists of recognizing her bad moods and
just not bugging her at those times.
· A pseudo-sub is never wrong. She’s just learning life lessons on her
own, the hard way.
· A pseudo-sub asks her Dominant if he likes what she is wearing, not
because she wants his opinion, but because she is fishing for a
compliment. If she doesn’t get one, she sulks or gets angry.
· A pseudo-sub often cares less about her actual relationship with her
Dominant than she does about what others think about her relationship.
· A pseudo-sub uses the word “why” as a way to top from the bottom.
Why don’t you like my hairstyle? Why won’t you let me do this? Why
can’t you be more flexible? Why don’t you want to have sex right now?
· A pseudo-sub trusts her Dominant, except when it comes to making
actual, important decision.
· A pseudo-sub thinks the rules only apply to all those other
submissives. She’s special.
· A pseudo-sub tells other submissives, “My Master is the best Master in
the whole wide world!” At the same time, she asks him, “Why can’t you
be like other Dominants?”
· A pseudo-sub thinks that having a Dom will magically fix whatever is
wrong with her.
· A pseudo-sub knows the one true way. It was on Tumblr, so it must be
true.
· A pseudo-sub has been tied up a hundred different ways and in sixteen
different languages. This makes her a pro, since everyone knows being
tied up takes real skill.
· A pseudo-sub has years of experience at being told what to do by her
former Dominant. The fact that she didn’t actually do any of those things
is completely irrelevant.
· A pseudo-sub describes her former Dom as abusive, her future Dom as