Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

such a thing is possible, but whether or not it would be ethical to be involved in
a relationship with a Little, if it is. Fortunately, for almost everyone involved,
the overwhelming majority of Littles are perfectly capable of slipping in and out
of the role of innocent waif as needed and appropriate, both in and out of the
bedroom. It is not at all unusual to see a lifestyle babygirl who, at the end of a
long workday as a high-powered executive and an evening of helping her
teenage kids with their homework, wants nothing more than to watch her
favorite cartoons with her Daddy and to have a bedtime story read aloud to her
as she drifts off to sleep.
It would be easy to assume that all Littles eventually end up in relationships with
Daddy Doms or, at the very least, potential Daddy Doms, but such is not always
the case. Since age play is typically frowned upon and shunned by the general
population, Littles and Daddy Doms often learn to suppress or conceal their true
orientation, which makes their quest for suitable life-partners who share their
way of thinking far more complicated and difficult than it ought to be. It
certainly doesn’t help that when most people outside of this lifestyle hear the
words lolita or babygirl, their first thought is usually of a sexually abused underaged
girl, rather than a kinky middle-aged housewife with a pacifier in her
mouth. Their practical need to stay under the radar has led to the exponential
growth of online venues where real-life Littles and Daddy Doms are able to
meet, mingle and develop relationships.
One of the down-sides of Daddy Dom/Little relationships is the unfortunate fact
that they reward childish behavior. Because the dynamic can mask naiveté and
places more emphasis on cuteness than common sense, these online venues also
tend to attract people who are actually mind-numbingly immature or underaged.
Imagine how you might feel to learn that your exciting new online friend,
who just happens to be awfully good at playing the role of a naughty twelveyear-old,
isn’t acting. This, my friend, is what nightmares are made of.
The Novice
The category of Novice covers a lot of ground, but it should suffice to say that
the Novice submissive is typically a person who has very recently discovered
and become excited about the D/s or BDSM lifestyle, and has decided that she
badly wants to be a part of it. The problem is, it usually isn’t simply a matter of
badly wanting to be a part of it, but of badly going about it, as well. This often
involves a frenzied quest to find a Master - any Master - and to have that