Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

also requires us to believe that we can truly see what happens behind closed
doors in someone else’s relationship dynamic, in order to say, “She behaves
perfectly with her Dom, it is only with others that she is a brat.” Frankly, it
defies credibility to believe that anyone could be challenging, rude, or
disrespectful to everyone in the world except her Dominant. It is far more likely
that the submissive’s bratty behavior is universal and whitewashed by a
Dominant is complicit in it because prefers to keep his own inability to deal with
it a secret. The internet abounds with web site tutorials for frustrated Dominants
on “How to Train Your Bratty Submissive.” Unfortunately, most of them miss
the point entirely and should, instead, be tutorials on “How to Spot and Avoid a
Phony Submissive.”
On the other hand, if a Brat’s behavior is an integral and approved part of the
relationship dynamic, then it becomes a delicate balancing act that must
continually be tweaked and reevaluated by both the submissive and her
Dominant. The very serious question of how much disobedience or disrespect is
too much can only be answered by the individuals in that relationship, and will
almost always raise questions about whether or not the submissive is “topping
from the bottom.” Topping from the bottom is a technique used by some
submissives to manipulate, control, or influence a Dominant’s decision-making
process. It is quite often accomplished without the Dominant even being aware
of it and, sometimes, without the submissive being conscious of it, either. It is
my humble opinion that any submissive who routinely tops from the bottom
should not be considered a true submissive. That isn’t to say she isn’t a good
person. It just means she isn’t a submissive.
The Cow/Pig
The Cow or Pig submissive is one who enjoys being treated like a domesticated
farm animal. Unlike the Pet submissive (see below), the Cow/Pig submissive
thrives on humiliation, degradation, and abuse from her Dominant. For this
reason, the Cow/Pig is usually most compatible with a Sadistic Dom. Often, the
relationship dynamic between the two focuses on the real or imagined
unattractiveness of the submissive, and frequent or extreme body modifications
such as branding or scarification are fairly common for the Cow/Pig
submissive. Cages, crates or pens are typically where the Cow/Pig submissive
feels most comfortable. She may spend time in these enclosures for play-time
only, or during select portions of the day, or even to sleep in. Cow/Pig