Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

radar for spotting the alpha individual in any room? If so, you are
definitely not alone. Many natural submissives have, over the course of
their lifetimes, developed and honed this ability, often without even realizing it.
Similarly, many gays and lesbians are able to utilize a finely tuned “gaydar”
sense that helps them to spot subtle body language and other nonverbal cues
that can help to identify potential partners. When you walk into a
room full of strangers, do your “spidey senses” immediately home in on that
alpha person? Is your curiosity naturally drawn to the person telling a funny
story in the center of a cluster of laughing people? Or
perhaps you can simply feel his or her direct gaze upon you from clear across the
room. If any, or all, of these scenarios sound familiar to you, you
just might be a submissive.
Do you feel good about changing your appearance, behavior, or habits in order
to please your partner? People generally
tend to fall into three categories, when it comes to altering how they look or act
in order to please someone else. Just for fun, I sometimes like to
characterize the three categories as salmon, cats, and dogs.
Salmon swim against the current. The salmon folks are those who are fiercely
independent and completely uncompromising when it comes to their appearance
and behavior. A person in this category not
only enjoys blazing her own path, but often seeks out and enjoys the
opportunity to swim against the tide of opinion, even if it is the opinion of the
person whose opinion she values the most. She’s the one who says, “Honey, I
love you, but if you try to tell me what to wear, how to look, or how much I
should weigh, I will rip your balls off and feed them to the dog.”
Cats are aloof. A cat person is one who is ambivalent or even apathetic about
this issue. If her appearance or