Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )
Torture. Torture refers to any sustained activity over time that consists of theintentional infliction of physical or emotional pain upon another person. One ofthe key elements of torture is the fact that it is sustained over a period of time; asingle poke or squeeze may not qualify as torture, but a hundred of them over thecourse of an hour might. The most common forms of BDSM torture play areCBT, breast and nipple torture, predicament bondage, orgasm denial, andbathroom restrictions; however the list is literally endless. Torture play is alsotypically combined with other forms of role play or BDSM scenes, such asabduction play, interrogation play and medical play. (See also: Abduction play,Bathroom use restrictions, Ball crushing, Ball stretching, Castration play, CBT,Interrogation play, Medical play)Training Collar. A training collar is, for many submissives, the logical secondstep that follows a short period of consideration and decision to move forwardinto a more serious and committed relationship. It is a recognition that, while amore intense and formal relationship is desired by both parties, there is stillmuch to be learned by the submissive before a formal collar can be offered.During training, every action by a submissive in a training collar reflects directlyupon the Dominant, telegraphing to all his competence - or lack thereof – as atrainer of submissives. This can also be a period of great stress and contentionas the Dominant and submissive adjust to their new roles in the relationship, andlearn to reconcile their expectations and preconceptions with reality. (See also:Collar, Collar of consideration, Collar of protection, Day collar, Play collar)Triad. A triad is any polyamorous relationship consisting of three people. Triadrelationships exist worldwide in many cultures, not just in the Poly or D/slifestyles. (See also: Polyamory)Uniform Play. Uniform play refers to activities which utilize a uniformparaphilia, or sexual arousal from either wearing or seeing others in a uniform.The uniforms are typically those worn by military service members, policeofficers, doctors, nurses, priests, schoolgirls, or the costumes worn by fictionalsuperheroes. Uniforms are frequently perceived as symbolic of authority,integrity, discipline or power. Other times, as in the case of nurses, schoolgirls,and priests, they may represent chastity, purity, innocence, or caring. Thearousal or emotions evoked by uniform play are sometimes used to add intensityto abduction play, age play, interrogation play, medical play, or religiousfantasies. (See also: Abduction play, Age play, Interrogation play, Littles,
Medical play, Paraphilia, Religious fantasy)Urethra Play. Urethra play refers to any activity that stimulates or focuses onthe urethra which, for males is the tube through which urine and semen pass andexit from the head of the penis, and for females is the tube through which urinepasses and exits between the clitoris and the vagina. Urethra play typicallyfocuses on the male urethra, and generally consists of inserting objects into theurethra to stimulate, arouse, or torture the subject. It is considered by some to bea form of edge play due to its high potential for pain or damage. (See also: CBT,Torture)Urine Play. Urine play (sometimes referred to as water sports) is simply anyactivity that involves the fascination with, adoration of, or sexual arousal fromurine. Urine play can take many forms, to include voyeurism (i.e. being arousedby watching others urinate), diaper play (i.e. being aroused by the sensations of awet diaper), bathroom use restrictions (i.e. being aroused by being forced to wetoneself), golden showers (arousal from urinating on others, or from beingurinated upon), and even drinking it which is, contrary to popular belief, actuallysterile and relatively safe in small amounts. (See also: AB/DL, Bathroom userestrictions, Diaper play, Golden showers, Paraphilia)Vanilla. Term used by those in the D/s, BDSM or fetish lifestyles to describethose who are outside of the lifestyle. It is generally used in the sense thatanything that is vanilla flavored (i.e. ice cream) is considered to be unexciting orbland. The term vanilla is rarely used as a serious pejorative or insult, thoughsome people will occasionally choose to interpret it as such. More commonly, itis simply used as a playful way of saying “normal.”Velcro Collar. A generally derisive term referring to the practice of casualfrequent collaring, usually the collaring of inexperienced submissives byinexperienced Dominants, neither of whom fully grasp the symbolism of thecollar, or the commitment to a relationship that it implies. “Velcro”, which is aregistered trademark of Velcro Industries B.V., is a reference to the easy on,easy off nature of this sort of collar. (See also: Collar, Collar of consideration,Collar of protection, Play collar, Training collar)Versatile. (See Switch)Veterinary Play. Refers to Medical role play that is associated with pet play.Instead of role playing the parts of a patient and doctor, veterinary play involves
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Urethra Play. Urethra play refers to any activity that stimulates or focuses on
the urethra which, for males is the tube through which urine and semen pass and
exit from the head of the penis, and for females is the tube through which urine
passes and exits between the clitoris and the vagina. Urethra play typically
focuses on the male urethra, and generally consists of inserting objects into the
urethra to stimulate, arouse, or torture the subject. It is considered by some to be
a form of edge play due to its high potential for pain or damage. (See also: CBT,
Torture)
Urine Play. Urine play (sometimes referred to as water sports) is simply any
activity that involves the fascination with, adoration of, or sexual arousal from
urine. Urine play can take many forms, to include voyeurism (i.e. being aroused
by watching others urinate), diaper play (i.e. being aroused by the sensations of a
wet diaper), bathroom use restrictions (i.e. being aroused by being forced to wet
oneself), golden showers (arousal from urinating on others, or from being
urinated upon), and even drinking it which is, contrary to popular belief, actually
sterile and relatively safe in small amounts. (See also: AB/DL, Bathroom use
restrictions, Diaper play, Golden showers, Paraphilia)
Vanilla. Term used by those in the D/s, BDSM or fetish lifestyles to describe
those who are outside of the lifestyle. It is generally used in the sense that
anything that is vanilla flavored (i.e. ice cream) is considered to be unexciting or
bland. The term vanilla is rarely used as a serious pejorative or insult, though
some people will occasionally choose to interpret it as such. More commonly, it
is simply used as a playful way of saying “normal.”
Velcro Collar. A generally derisive term referring to the practice of casual
frequent collaring, usually the collaring of inexperienced submissives by
inexperienced Dominants, neither of whom fully grasp the symbolism of the
collar, or the commitment to a relationship that it implies. “Velcro”, which is a
registered trademark of Velcro Industries B.V., is a reference to the easy on,
easy off nature of this sort of collar. (See also: Collar, Collar of consideration,
Collar of protection, Play collar, Training collar)
Versatile. (See Switch)
Veterinary Play. Refers to Medical role play that is associated with pet play.
Instead of role playing the parts of a patient and doctor, veterinary play involves
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