Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

punishment, or even a combination of the two. Some people like to differentiate
an erotic spanking (which usually involves sexual fondling or other sex acts)
from a simple spanking, which does not. A spanking can be an end in itself, or
used as a type of foreplay that is used to heighten psychological or physical
arousal. Spankings are often combined with bondage, age play, and other types
of scenes. (See also: Impact play, Pussy spanking, Slapping)
Speculum. A speculum (plural: specula) is a hand-held medical device which
facilitates looking into body cavities. It is used most commonly by a
gynecologist to examine a woman’s vagina, obtain a Pap test sample, or to
conduct a biopsy. Specula may come in a variety of designs, to include vaginal,
anal, dilating, and even some with mechanisms to inflate the body cavity with
air. In the BDSM culture, specula are used primarily in medical role play. (See
also: Medical play)
Spreader Bar. A spreader bar is a device designed to keep a person’s legs
spread wide apart in order to provide easy access to his or her genitalia. It is
essentially just a stick, two to four feet in length, with rings at each end, to which
ankle (or sometimes, wrist) cuffs may be attached. Some spreader bar designs
incorporate additional features such as center-mounted shackles for wrists or
collars, adjustable length, extra rings or clips, or suspension gear. (See also:
Bondage, Restraints)
Squick. Squick is a recently coined word which means to be viscerally turnedoff
by something. It is often used synonymously for repulsed or disgusted, as in,
“Scat play really squicks me out.” It is generally believed that the word is a
combination of squeamish and icky, though the actual etymology is unclear.
There has been some controversy regarding whether or not repulsion and/or
disgust carry connotations of judgment and moralizing. This is a particularly
sensitive topic in a culture where judging and moralizing are generally
considered the ultimate taboo. Being disgusted by a BDSM scene may imply to
some that you consider what the participants are doing to be morally wrong. On
the other hand, certain foods can disgust you without there being any implication
of moral judgment. This controversy is not likely to be settled anytime soon.
S.S.C. Acronym for Safe, Sane, and Consensual. For many years, SSC was a
popular mantra of the BDSM culture; however recently it has come under a great
deal of scrutiny and criticism for being far too subjective to be useful.
Obviously, one person’s notion of what is “safe” can differ greatly from