Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

in it, since this is an activity that can be an instant source of misunderstanding,
and can turn ugly really fast. (See also: Humiliation, Impact play, Spanking)
Slave. A submissive who cultivates and enjoys the illusion that he or she has no
free will. The fact that this is an illusion should surprise no one, since the
foundation of any D/s relationship is always consent. Many in the lifestyle
consider this a form of consensual non-consent. The many different types of
slaves could literally fill an entire book, but it should suffice to say that the word
slave can mean very different things to different people. Anyone considering
becoming a slave should define exactly what that means to everyone involved,
especially when one considers the fact that the law takes a dim view of anything
that resembles actual slavery. (See also: Consent, Consensual non-consent,
Gor, Master)
Slave Contract. A slave contract is an agreement which requires the slave to
relinquish all personal rights, property, finances and decision making powers to
the slave-owner or Master. Even though they are quite popular, especially in the
online BDSM community, there are numerous reasons why slave contracts are
illegal and unenforceable. (See also: Consent, Consensual non-consent, Gor,
Master)
Sleep Sack. A sleep sack is simply a cloth bag similar to a sleeping bag which
can be used to enclose a person either entirely or with the head protruding. It is
used most commonly as a unique form of bondage and often in conjunction with
other forms of BDSM play such as age play and abduction play. (See also:
Bondage, Restraints)
Smotherbox. A smother box is a device used in activities involving queening or
face sitting. It is a box with two openings - one on the vertical face of the box to
allow the head entry into the box, and the other in the top of the box to expose
the face to the Dominant’s genitals, above. The inside of a smotherbox is
sometimes padded to prevent the head from moving. (See also: Face sitting,
Humiliation, Queening, Queening stool.)
Spanking. Any striking activity that involves an open hand, unless it is to the
face or breasts, in which case it is usually considered slapping. While spanking
is generally associated with strikes to the buttocks, it is also fairly common for
spankings to target the inner thighs, backs of the legs, and the groin area.
Depending on the D/s dynamic, spankings can be delivered as either reward or