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(See also: BDSM, Masochism, Sadistic Dominant)Sadistic Dominant. A Sadistic Dominant is one who enjoys or is sexuallyaroused by inflicting physical or emotional pain, suffering or humiliation uponhis partners. Whether or not the Sadistic Dom’s partner is a masochist is usuallynot relevant to the pleasure he derives from it. (See also: Dominant, Masochism,Sadism)Sadomasochism. (See: Masochism, Sadism, Sadistic Dominant)Safe Word. A safe word is a pre-arranged, mutually understood and agreeduponcode-word that can be used by a bottom during a BDSM scene to signal tothe Top and/or anyone else present that all activity must stop immediately. Theuse of a safe-word is typically the result of one or more of the bottom’s soft orhard limits being exceeded; however, for all practical purposes, it can be usedanytime a bottom cannot continue with a scene, since one of the definingcharacteristics of a safe word is that no explanation is required, nor should onebe demanded when it is used. A safe word should be unusual enough that it isnot uttered inadvertently or misunderstood when it is used deliberately, howeverit should not be so unusual that it can’t be recalled or is difficult to say when inpain or under stress.Saint Andrews Cross. The St Andrew’s cross, which is also sometimes referredto as an X-frame or saltire cross, consists essentially of two cross-beams in theform of a large letter “X”, with hardware at the ends of the beams to facilitate theattachment of wrist and ankle restraints. It may or may not be padded, may becompletely vertical or canted, and can be constructed from practically any sturdymaterial. Bottoms may be attached facing the cross or facing outward,depending on the type of play being contemplated. (See also: Bondage, Racks,Restraints)S.A.M./Sammy. Acronym for Smart-ass Masochist. A Sammy is a submissivewho intentionally misbehaves, lacks discipline, and/or refuses to observegenerally accepted customs and protocol. (See also: Brat, Masochist, Protocol,Service Top, Submissive, Topping from the Bottom)Saran Wrap. (See: Bondage, Breath play, Mummification, Immobilization,Postural asphyxiation)Scene. A BDSM scene may refer to any BDSM activity and setting; however it
more accurately refers to a BDSM activity that is done in front of an audience.A scene should be considered a performance, and not be interrupted or interferedwith in any way. Scenes do not usually involve explicitly sexual activity, butthere are always exceptions, and it is not uncommon for participants (or evenobservers) to experience a sexual reaction to what might be considered by mostto be a nonsexual activity. Before participating in any kind of BDSM scene,always be sure that all participants are clear on exactly what will be involved,whether it will involve sex, and what safety measures will be in effect. (Seealso: Bondage, Bottom, Impact play, Fluid bonding, Role play, Safe word, Top)Sensation Play. Sensation play refers to any activity that involves a sharp focuson the physical sensations of touch, temperature, taste, smell, hearing, and sight.Some types of sensation play may be very subtle and others not quite so subtle.Sensation play may also include sensory deprivation activities, such as the use ofblindfolds. Other examples of sensation play are: tickle play, temperature play(i.e. ice or hot wax), electrical play (i.e. violet wands or TENS units), abrasion,and cupping. (See also: Abrasion play, Blindfolds, Cupping, Electrical play,EMS units, Hot wax play, TENS units, Tickle play, Violet wand)Service Sub/Slave. (See also: Domestic)Service Top. A Service Top is a person who is topping, or acting in a dominantrole, at the request or direction of their partner, who is a bottom, submissive, orswitch. This type of direction or guidance by the bottom is sometimes calledtopping from the bottom. (See also: Top, Switch, Bottom, Topping from thebottom.)Shibari. A form of Japanese rope bondage that involves highly intricate andvisually appealing patterns and knots. In the BDSM lifestyle, there is a robustsubculture devoted almost entirely to rope bondage in general, and Japanese ropebondage in particular. Some devotees of shibari make the distinction betweenshibari, which is technically the art of tying and knotting, and kinbaku, which isthe application of that art in an erotic or sexual way. (See also: Bondage,Kinbaku, Restraints, Rope play, Suspension)Slapping. Striking the face with an open hand; usually done to heighten asubmissive’s emotional state. Face slapping is often an activity enjoyed by thosewho seek humiliation as part of their BDSM play. As a general rule, it is usuallya good idea to ensure that your partner wants to have this done before engaging
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(See also: BDSM, Masochism, Sadistic Dominant)
Sadistic Dominant. A Sadistic Dominant is one who enjoys or is sexually
aroused by inflicting physical or emotional pain, suffering or humiliation upon
his partners. Whether or not the Sadistic Dom’s partner is a masochist is usually
not relevant to the pleasure he derives from it. (See also: Dominant, Masochism,
Sadism)
Sadomasochism. (See: Masochism, Sadism, Sadistic Dominant)
Safe Word. A safe word is a pre-arranged, mutually understood and agreedupon
code-word that can be used by a bottom during a BDSM scene to signal to
the Top and/or anyone else present that all activity must stop immediately. The
use of a safe-word is typically the result of one or more of the bottom’s soft or
hard limits being exceeded; however, for all practical purposes, it can be used
anytime a bottom cannot continue with a scene, since one of the defining
characteristics of a safe word is that no explanation is required, nor should one
be demanded when it is used. A safe word should be unusual enough that it is
not uttered inadvertently or misunderstood when it is used deliberately, however
it should not be so unusual that it can’t be recalled or is difficult to say when in
pain or under stress.
Saint Andrews Cross. The St Andrew’s cross, which is also sometimes referred
to as an X-frame or saltire cross, consists essentially of two cross-beams in the
form of a large letter “X”, with hardware at the ends of the beams to facilitate the
attachment of wrist and ankle restraints. It may or may not be padded, may be
completely vertical or canted, and can be constructed from practically any sturdy
material. Bottoms may be attached facing the cross or facing outward,
depending on the type of play being contemplated. (See also: Bondage, Racks,
Restraints)
S.A.M./Sammy. Acronym for Smart-ass Masochist. A Sammy is a submissive
who intentionally misbehaves, lacks discipline, and/or refuses to observe
generally accepted customs and protocol. (See also: Brat, Masochist, Protocol,
Service Top, Submissive, Topping from the Bottom)
Saran Wrap. (See: Bondage, Breath play, Mummification, Immobilization,
Postural asphyxiation)
Scene. A BDSM scene may refer to any BDSM activity and setting; however it
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