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another on aspects of the D/s or BDSM lifestyles. Typically a Dominant willmentor another Dominant, or a submissive will mentor another submissive, andthe relationship is a casual, friendly one rather than a formal one.Misandry. Hatred or dislike of men as a class; not necessarily targeting men asindividuals. Often used as a significant part of the FemDom’s sadistic rolereversalrepertoire. (See also: CBT, FemDom, Humiliation, Sadism)Mitts. BDSM mitts are typically made of leather or other heavy-duty materials,and are used to prevent a bottom from using his or her hands and, mostcommonly, to prevent masturbation. Other common uses include immobilizingthe wrists and hands by attaching them to other bondage gear, hobbling someoneto make an assigned task near-impossible to accomplish, or for disciplinary orhumiliation purposes. (See also: Bondage, Humiliation, Masturbationrestrictions)Mouth Bit. A mouth bit is a type of gag which consists of a cylindrical barplaced between the teeth of the wearer, and held in place by straps or a bridle.Actual horse bits are generally made of metal, but the mouth bits used in BDSMplay are usually made from rubber or a rigid material (plastic/metal) with apliable coating to provide more protection for the teeth and lips. Mouth bits aremost commonly used in pony play, but are also used in other types of scenes andplay. A mouth bit will not prevent speech, but will make it more difficult. (Seealso: Bondage, Gags, Pet play, Pony Play)Mummification. Mummification refers to bondage play consisting of wrappingparts or all of a person’s body with fabric, bandages, plastic wrap, rubber, ducttape, tarps, or similar materials. Mummification is often combined withabduction play, bondage play, humiliation play, breath play, torture, and manyother forms of BDSM play. Mummification can create a risk of posturalasphyxiation. When mummification includes the subject’s head and face, greatcare must be taken to avoid suffocation. A reliable pair of heavy-dutyemergency shears should always be kept nearby in the event that an emergencyrequires the rapid release of the wrapped subject. (See also: Bondage, Breathplay, Humiliation, Postural asphyxiation)Munch. A munch typically refers to a regular gathering of a D/s lifestyle groupfor socializing, meeting new people and, often, a meal. Munches are almostalways conducted in public places, in an entirely vanilla fashion. This allows
first-time visitors, who may be curious or hesitant, to attend the event and enjoythemselves without feeling any unnecessary pressure. Munches also allow thegroup to learn a little something about new or unfamiliar individuals beforeinviting them to other more sensitive events. (See also: Protocol)Needle Play. Needle play typically consist of placing acupuncture needles intovarious fleshy parts of the body to induce or reduce fear, create aestheticallypleasing patterns or designs, stimulate the nervous system, cause or reduce pain,and for other therapeutic reasons. Acupuncture needles may be inserted into theflesh perpendicular to the skin or at a secant, where the needle is pushed througha fold of skin in such a way that the tip emerges again, leaving only the centerpart of the needle shaft below the skin. This aesthetic mode of needle play hasrecently become quite popular as a way to anchor decorative corset lacing to aperson’s back or chest. (See also: Edge play, Injection play, Medical play)Novice Submissive. A novice submissive is typically a person who has veryrecently discovered and become excited about the D/s or BDSM lifestyle, andhas decided that she badly wants to be a part of it as quickly as possible. This issometimes referred to as sub frenzy. This often involves a frenzied quest to finda Master, any Master, as quickly as possible.Odaxelagnia. Odaxelagnia refers to a fetish or paraphilia which involvesbecoming sexually aroused by biting. (See also: Paraphilia.)Orgasm Control/Denial. The practice of denying or delaying a submissive’sorgasm, which can be done for a multitude of reasons, to include heighteningarousal, demonstrating a Dominant’s power over a submissive, or to punish.Orgasm denial can be long term, meaning the subject may be denied permissionto have an orgasm for days or weeks, or short term, where the orgasm is deferredfor just seconds or minutes. Orgasm denial may or may not involve thesubmissive requesting from the Dominant permission to have an orgasm. (Seealso: Masturbation restrictions)OTK. Acronym for Over The Knee. OTK refers to a specific style of spanking,generally (but not necessarily) practiced by those who are into Age Play. Thesubmissive lies face down across the lap of the Dominant, who administers aspanking. The spanking may be characterized as punishment or reward,depending on the relationship dynamic, and may or may not involve genitalfondling or other sexual activities. (See also: Age play, Humiliation, Impact
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another on aspects of the D/s or BDSM lifestyles. Typically a Dominant will
mentor another Dominant, or a submissive will mentor another submissive, and
the relationship is a casual, friendly one rather than a formal one.
Misandry. Hatred or dislike of men as a class; not necessarily targeting men as
individuals. Often used as a significant part of the FemDom’s sadistic rolereversal
repertoire. (See also: CBT, FemDom, Humiliation, Sadism)
Mitts. BDSM mitts are typically made of leather or other heavy-duty materials,
and are used to prevent a bottom from using his or her hands and, most
commonly, to prevent masturbation. Other common uses include immobilizing
the wrists and hands by attaching them to other bondage gear, hobbling someone
to make an assigned task near-impossible to accomplish, or for disciplinary or
humiliation purposes. (See also: Bondage, Humiliation, Masturbation
restrictions)
Mouth Bit. A mouth bit is a type of gag which consists of a cylindrical bar
placed between the teeth of the wearer, and held in place by straps or a bridle.
Actual horse bits are generally made of metal, but the mouth bits used in BDSM
play are usually made from rubber or a rigid material (plastic/metal) with a
pliable coating to provide more protection for the teeth and lips. Mouth bits are
most commonly used in pony play, but are also used in other types of scenes and
play. A mouth bit will not prevent speech, but will make it more difficult. (See
also: Bondage, Gags, Pet play, Pony Play)
Mummification. Mummification refers to bondage play consisting of wrapping
parts or all of a person’s body with fabric, bandages, plastic wrap, rubber, duct
tape, tarps, or similar materials. Mummification is often combined with
abduction play, bondage play, humiliation play, breath play, torture, and many
other forms of BDSM play. Mummification can create a risk of postural
asphyxiation. When mummification includes the subject’s head and face, great
care must be taken to avoid suffocation. A reliable pair of heavy-duty
emergency shears should always be kept nearby in the event that an emergency
requires the rapid release of the wrapped subject. (See also: Bondage, Breath
play, Humiliation, Postural asphyxiation)
Munch. A munch typically refers to a regular gathering of a D/s lifestyle group
for socializing, meeting new people and, often, a meal. Munches are almost
always conducted in public places, in an entirely vanilla fashion. This allows