Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )
the law typically takes a dim view of slave auctions, and considers them a thinlyveiled form of prostitution. (See also: Role play, Slave)Autoerotic Asphyxiation. Autoerotic asphyxiation refers to masturbation whilecutting off your own oxygen through the use of nooses, straps, plastic bags orother devices. This is an extremely dangerous practice which was blamed forthe death of film actor David Carradine in a hotel room in Thailand on June 4,2009. The fact that it is an activity that is typically engaged in while alonemakes it potentially even deadlier. (See also: Asphyxiation, Breath play, Edgeplay)BDSM. Acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism. Some peopleattribute the D or DS portion of the acronym to Domination/submission, but thisis the result of a fairly recent effort by activists to rewrite the definition ofBDSM to be “more inclusive” of the D/s lifestyle. For the purposes of this book,BDSM refers primarily to kink and fetish activities, while D/s refers primarily toa relationship dynamic or mindset. While there is often a great deal of overlap,this does not make them the same thing. (See also: Bondage, D/s, Discipline,Masochism, Sadism)Babygirl. (See: Little.)Ball Busting. Ball busting is a form of cock and ball torture (CBT) that involvesstriking, kicking, kneeing or squeezing a person’s testicles to produce intensepain and humiliation. This practice can be extremely dangerous, as it can causeserious and permanent scrotal damage. (See: CBT, Torture)Ball Crusher. (See: Ball Busting, CBT, Torture)Ball Stretching. Ball stretching is a form of cock and ball torture (CBT) thatinvolves applying devices or weights to a male’s scrotum that elongate or stretchthe testicles. Ball stretching devices can be constructed of steel, leather, rope,string, or any other materials designed to be attached to the scrotum and pullthem away from the body. Ball stretching can be extremely dangerous, as it cansometimes result in a blockage of blood flow to the testicles, or a testicularhernia. (See: Ball Busting, CBT, Parachute, Torture)Barebacking. Barebacking refers to having unprotected sex, which canpotentially result in pregnancy or the transmission of sexually transmitteddiseases (STDs). (See also: Fluid bonding)
Bathroom Use Restrictions. Bathroom use restrictions refer to the practice of aDominant limiting, deferring or denying altogether the use of a toilet to his orher submissive. This is typically done to produce discomfort, pain, orhumiliation – particularly if the denial of toilet privileges leads to the submissivesoiling or wetting herself. (See also: Diaper play, Humiliation, Torture, Urineplay)Beating. Beating typically refers to any form of impact play, to includespanking, slapping, whipping, flogging, clubbing, caning, paddling, cropping,and punching. (See also: Impact play)Being Serviced. A common euphemism for a Dominant or Top receiving oralsex from a submissive or bottom in a somewhat aloof fashion.Bipoly. A person who is bipoly is both bisexual and polyamorous. (See also:Polyamory)Blindfold. Noun: Any strip of cloth, accessory or device designed to be wornover the eyes to prevent a person from seeing. Verb: To cover the eyes of aperson. Blindfolding is typically a form of sensory deprivation used in BDSMplay used to heighten the wearer’s fear or unease, and sometimes, to simulateanonymous sexual activity. (See also: Bondage, Sensation play)Body Worship. Body worship is an obsession with another person’s body,typically the form, musculature, genitals, or buttocks. This obsession is typicallydemonstrated through reverence, prostration, kissing, licking, sucking, and othertypes of oral sex. (See also: Ass worship, Cock worship, Pussy Worship)Bondage. Bondage is the practice of binding, tying, strapping, boxing, caging,suspending, or otherwise restraining a person for sexual, psychological, artistic,or decorative purposes. Bondage is often combined with other forms of BDSMplay such as humiliation, torture, impact play, or acting out rape fantasies. (Seealso: Restraints, Self Bondage.)Boot Worship. A fetish that involves the obsessive adoration of a Dominant’sboots. Boot worship often involves prostration, kissing, licking, or masturbationinvolving the Dominant’s boots. It is commonly a part of the dynamic betweena sadistic Dominant and a submissive that enjoys humiliation and forcedbehaviors. (See also: FemDom, Foot fetish, Humiliation)Bottom. A term used in both the BDSM and gay lifestyles to refer to a person in
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Bathroom Use Restrictions. Bathroom use restrictions refer to the practice of a
Dominant limiting, deferring or denying altogether the use of a toilet to his or
her submissive. This is typically done to produce discomfort, pain, or
humiliation – particularly if the denial of toilet privileges leads to the submissive
soiling or wetting herself. (See also: Diaper play, Humiliation, Torture, Urine
play)
Beating. Beating typically refers to any form of impact play, to include
spanking, slapping, whipping, flogging, clubbing, caning, paddling, cropping,
and punching. (See also: Impact play)
Being Serviced. A common euphemism for a Dominant or Top receiving oral
sex from a submissive or bottom in a somewhat aloof fashion.
Bipoly. A person who is bipoly is both bisexual and polyamorous. (See also:
Polyamory)
Blindfold. Noun: Any strip of cloth, accessory or device designed to be worn
over the eyes to prevent a person from seeing. Verb: To cover the eyes of a
person. Blindfolding is typically a form of sensory deprivation used in BDSM
play used to heighten the wearer’s fear or unease, and sometimes, to simulate
anonymous sexual activity. (See also: Bondage, Sensation play)
Body Worship. Body worship is an obsession with another person’s body,
typically the form, musculature, genitals, or buttocks. This obsession is typically
demonstrated through reverence, prostration, kissing, licking, sucking, and other
types of oral sex. (See also: Ass worship, Cock worship, Pussy Worship)
Bondage. Bondage is the practice of binding, tying, strapping, boxing, caging,
suspending, or otherwise restraining a person for sexual, psychological, artistic,
or decorative purposes. Bondage is often combined with other forms of BDSM
play such as humiliation, torture, impact play, or acting out rape fantasies. (See
also: Restraints, Self Bondage.)
Boot Worship. A fetish that involves the obsessive adoration of a Dominant’s
boots. Boot worship often involves prostration, kissing, licking, or masturbation
involving the Dominant’s boots. It is commonly a part of the dynamic between
a sadistic Dominant and a submissive that enjoys humiliation and forced
behaviors. (See also: FemDom, Foot fetish, Humiliation)
Bottom. A term used in both the BDSM and gay lifestyles to refer to a person in
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