Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

not as much of a pervert as you might have thought!
This is a culture that is incredibly diverse and places a very high value on
tolerance. Just because my kink is not your kink doesn’t necessarily make me
right and you wrong. You may view another person’s fetish with disdain or even
revulsion, but you should never forget that the world is full of people who might
look upon your kinks with equal repugnance. It is this community’s respect and
reverence for diversity and rejection of judgmental posturing that makes it very
special. That does not, however, mean that we should tolerate absolutely
anything.
I won’t pretend to be able to tell you how you should set your own moral
compass. Just know that when you come into this lifestyle, you shouldn’t leave
your ethics at the door.
D/s relationships can be among the happiest and most intense, loving,
passionate, and fulfilling kinds of relationships you may ever experience. A
very small percentage of people will be lucky enough to find the right D/s
partner at the right time under the right circumstances, and literally live happily
ever after. Another small slice of those in the lifestyle may get just a brief taste
of what could have been, and spend a lifetime hoping once again to recreate that
magical spark. Still others may never get a chance at all to experience the thrill
of hearing or saying, “I am yours,” and knowing it is not just a figure of speech.
The rest of us - the great majority of us - will do what we have always done, in
or outside of the lifestyle.
We will find those special people who make us smile so much that our cheeks
hurt, who spark our imaginations, who make us unafraid to show our secret
selves, who want the very best for us and prove it every single day, the ones who
make us ache for them, day and night. When we find those people, we hold
them close and live, love, lust, and laugh with them for as long as we possibly
can.
Rinse. Repeat.
You can find joy and fulfillment in a loving, healthy D/s relationship.
There are no guarantees, no sure things, and no secret formulas for success. It
could last a day, or it could last a lifetime. Regardless of how long it lasts, if you
keep your focus on bringing joy to your partner, and savoring the personal