Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Chapter 15: Rainbows & Unicorns
This final chapter is about happiness. Your happiness.
We’ve spent a great deal of time discussing the almost infinite number of ways
that a Domination/submission relationship can go off the rails. To leave you in a
state of apprehension, viewing this lifestyle from a cynical perspective would be
unfair, both to you and to the lifestyle. While this life and these kinds of
relationships aren’t for everyone, there is a lot to like about the lifestyle for those
who are well-suited for it. Actually, that is an understatement. There’s a lot to
love about it.
My greatest concern, while writing this book, has been that by describing some
of the pitfalls to be avoided, that I might inadvertently convince you to avoid the
lifestyle entirely. I have worried that I spent too much time describing the
BDSM culture and not enough time explaining how to be a part of it, or even
why you might want to. I have been vexed by the thought that I may have spent
too much time describing different kinds of D/s relationships, and not enough
time telling you how to have a good one. I really do wish I could let you peek
into my heart and see the wonderful relationships and the lifetime of joy that this
lifestyle has provided me.
This lifestyle ought to be fun and fulfilling. If it is neither of those things for
you, then perhaps you’re doing it wrong. I wish there was a one-size-fits-all
recommendation that I could give you that would ensure that your future D/s
relationships and BDSM lifestyle will always and forever be fun and fulfilling.
The key to finding that kind of happiness is going to be different for each
individual, but it will always come from the same place. It will come from
somewhere deep within yourself. If you’re seeking it elsewhere, you’re looking
in the wrong place.
I like to tell the tale of a man who was out one night for his usual evening stroll,
when he happened upon a neighbor, crawling around on all fours in the street
under a streetlight:
“Hi there, Ralph!” he greeted his neighbor, cheerily. “What are you doing?”