Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )
without sex, it’s relatively common. In fact, many BDSM events and facilities donot allow sex on the premises at all.I do realize this is a difficult thing for some people to wrap their heads around,and I hope you are able to grasp what it is that I’m trying to say here. BDSMand sex really do go great together. All I’m saying is, they don’t have to.Think: sex and television. You can have sex without television, and you cancertainly watch television without sex. Sometimes, you can even do both(gasp!) at the same time. So, is watching television during sex inherently a goodthing or a bad thing? It probably depends on who you’re doing it with, whatyou’re watching, and why.Watching a little porn to spice things up during sex could turn out to be great foryour relationship. Watching SpongeBob Squarepants reruns, perhaps less so.Regardless, if turns out to be a bad thing, it is hardly the television’s fault. Thebottom line, as far as the seventh commandment is concerned, is simply this: Ifyou’re predisposed to commit adultery, the presence (or absence) of BDSM inyour life probably isn’t going to change that.The last three commandments are easy. Don’t lie, cheat or covet. Frankly, ifyou are having problems with any of those, you have bigger problems than thechallenges of living a BDSM lifestyle, and should probably be reading acompletely different kind of book – perhaps something like, “How Not to Be aComplete Jerk.”Were you at all surprised to learn just how lifestyle-friendly the TenCommandments could be? Believe it not, we’ve somehow managed to wadethrough the entire Ten Commandments without encountering a single potentialdeal-breaker for someone who might be considering the BDSM lifestyle! I don’tknow about you, but I really do think that’s kind of cool.What the Bible Says About D/sAs we stated earlier, many of the harmful misconceptions about the lifestylecommonly held by those outside the BDSM culture can be traced to equatingBDSM with sex. Unfortunately, the scriptures are usually about as clear as mudon the subject of sex, and much less so on any activities which might beassociated with BDSM. This is primarily a consequence of the many ways theworld and the meanings of key words and phrases have evolved in the course oftwo thousand years. Take, for example, how the following biblical terms and
doctrines have changed over time:· Early Christians interpreted fornication to mean adultery, incest, andbestiality. Today, it is generally understood to mean any sex outside ofmarriage, to include premarital sex.· The New Testament (Matt 5:32) taught that anyone who married adivorced woman was committing adultery. Today, adultery is interpretedto mean sex outside of marriage.· Sex before marriage was widely tolerated, if not accepted, throughoutmuch of Christianity until the Anglican Church made it taboo in 1753.· Most of the biblical passages that are today interpreted as references tomasturbation are actually references to coitus interuptus, or the practice ofpulling out of a woman’s vagina before ejaculation.Given these and other examples of linguistic and doctrinal evolution, it’s easy tosee how the various Christian sects and denominations would be forced todevelop their own ideas on what is and isn’t acceptable, as far as sexuality isconcerned. A casual student of the Bible who might be looking for specificguidance on how to apply biblical principles to twenty-first century sexualitywould have a daunting task ahead, indeed. The good news is, the focus of ourexamination isn’t so much sexuality as it is about viewingDomination/submission through the prism of Christianity, and that - surprisingly- isn’t as difficult as you might think.The Bible is literally chock-full of advice on things like how to submit to God orto your husband, how to treat your slave or wife, and how to respect and obeythose who have rule over you. In fact, viewing the scriptures as a collection ofsimilitudes and parables which can serve as templates for healthy D/srelationships can prove to be very useful indeed! For example, consider theadvice that the apostle Paul gave in his letter of instruction to the members of thechurch in Ephesus, when he wrote:Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the nameof our Lord Jesus Christ; Submitting yourselves one to another in the fearof God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto theLord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the headof the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church
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doctrines have changed over time:
· Early Christians interpreted fornication to mean adultery, incest, and
bestiality. Today, it is generally understood to mean any sex outside of
marriage, to include premarital sex.
· The New Testament (Matt 5:32) taught that anyone who married a
divorced woman was committing adultery. Today, adultery is interpreted
to mean sex outside of marriage.
· Sex before marriage was widely tolerated, if not accepted, throughout
much of Christianity until the Anglican Church made it taboo in 1753.
· Most of the biblical passages that are today interpreted as references to
masturbation are actually references to coitus interuptus, or the practice of
pulling out of a woman’s vagina before ejaculation.
Given these and other examples of linguistic and doctrinal evolution, it’s easy to
see how the various Christian sects and denominations would be forced to
develop their own ideas on what is and isn’t acceptable, as far as sexuality is
concerned. A casual student of the Bible who might be looking for specific
guidance on how to apply biblical principles to twenty-first century sexuality
would have a daunting task ahead, indeed. The good news is, the focus of our
examination isn’t so much sexuality as it is about viewing
Domination/submission through the prism of Christianity, and that - surprisingly
- isn’t as difficult as you might think.
The Bible is literally chock-full of advice on things like how to submit to God or
to your husband, how to treat your slave or wife, and how to respect and obey
those who have rule over you. In fact, viewing the scriptures as a collection of
similitudes and parables which can serve as templates for healthy D/s
relationships can prove to be very useful indeed! For example, consider the
advice that the apostle Paul gave in his letter of instruction to the members of the
church in Ephesus, when he wrote:
Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name
of our Lord Jesus Christ; Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear
of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the
Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head
of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church
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