Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

without sex, it’s relatively common. In fact, many BDSM events and facilities do
not allow sex on the premises at all.
I do realize this is a difficult thing for some people to wrap their heads around,
and I hope you are able to grasp what it is that I’m trying to say here. BDSM
and sex really do go great together. All I’m saying is, they don’t have to.
Think: sex and television. You can have sex without television, and you can
certainly watch television without sex. Sometimes, you can even do both
(gasp!) at the same time. So, is watching television during sex inherently a good
thing or a bad thing? It probably depends on who you’re doing it with, what
you’re watching, and why.
Watching a little porn to spice things up during sex could turn out to be great for
your relationship. Watching SpongeBob Squarepants reruns, perhaps less so.
Regardless, if turns out to be a bad thing, it is hardly the television’s fault. The
bottom line, as far as the seventh commandment is concerned, is simply this: If
you’re predisposed to commit adultery, the presence (or absence) of BDSM in
your life probably isn’t going to change that.
The last three commandments are easy. Don’t lie, cheat or covet. Frankly, if
you are having problems with any of those, you have bigger problems than the
challenges of living a BDSM lifestyle, and should probably be reading a
completely different kind of book – perhaps something like, “How Not to Be a
Complete Jerk.”
Were you at all surprised to learn just how lifestyle-friendly the Ten
Commandments could be? Believe it not, we’ve somehow managed to wade
through the entire Ten Commandments without encountering a single potential
deal-breaker for someone who might be considering the BDSM lifestyle! I don’t
know about you, but I really do think that’s kind of cool.
What the Bible Says About D/s
As we stated earlier, many of the harmful misconceptions about the lifestyle
commonly held by those outside the BDSM culture can be traced to equating
BDSM with sex. Unfortunately, the scriptures are usually about as clear as mud
on the subject of sex, and much less so on any activities which might be
associated with BDSM. This is primarily a consequence of the many ways the
world and the meanings of key words and phrases have evolved in the course of
two thousand years. Take, for example, how the following biblical terms and