Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Potential Advantages of a Poly Relationship
Since this book is ostensibly about D/s and BDSM
relationships, we’ll focus now on how polyamorous relationships work (or
don’t) in the context of the lifestyle. Not only is the poly dynamic
more common in the D/s lifestyle, but it generally tends to be more useful there,
as well. Consider these potential advantages, while staying
mindful of the fact that being poly in a D/s context typically means a
relationship consisting of a single Dominant and two or more submissives.
Empathy.
Everyone, in or out of this lifestyle, needs a little empathy from time to time, but
for a submissive, this need is usually far more intense.
Yet, when it comes to a D/s relationship, where does a submissive go to find
someone who truly understands her situation, and how she feels about it?
You’re not very likely to approach a vanilla co-worker to discuss, over lunch,
your relationship with your Master. Even if you were to couch everything in
purely vanilla terms, there would be one crucial part of the equation missing,
and that would be the D/s relationship dynamic.
Any understanding that your vanilla friend would think she had about your
situation would be seriously flawed, and any advice she gave you would likely
be tragically misguided. And while it would certainly be helpful
to know and depend upon friends who understand the lifestyle and are also
submissives, no one knows you, your situation, and/or your Master the way your
sister (or brother) submissive does. The empathy and understanding that can
exist between co-wives or co-husbands in a poly relationship is unparalleled
anywhere else in our culture.