Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Mistaking BDSM for D/s
A wise person once said that time exists in our universe in order to keep
everything from happening all at once. It’s extremely rare to find lasting love,
great sex, a hot D/s dynamic and awesome BDSM all in the same afternoon.
Most of us would be overjoyed to experience just one of the four in any given
day, and frankly, that’s usually the way it happens. Whichever one you begin
with, you should do your best to avoid assuming that it’s going to be a “buy one,
get the other three free” kind of a day. It’s incredibly easy to get caught up in
the excitement of the moment and, because we desperately want it all, we
sometimes can be a little too quick to believe that we have it all. Unfortunately,
wishing doesn’t necessarily make it so.
Vicki was a bright, vivacious twenty-one-year-old whose fairly extensive BDSM
experience was relatively unusual for someone of her age. She belonged to three
different local fetish groups, and attended munches or kink events at least a
couple of times each week. When she wasn’t attending socials or being a ropebunny
at play parties, she was working as a nude vid-cam model, running a blog
about boobs, advocating for fetish and LGBT rights, watching bondage porn, or
making friends in BDSM chat rooms. She loved practically every aspect of
BDSM; there was almost nothing that she wouldn’t try as a bottom. She enjoyed
spanking, flogging, whipping, paddling, rope play, needle play, breath play,
knife play, pet play and more. In fact, she was voraciously hungry to try new
and exciting forms of BDSM play, which is how she met Mark.
Mark was a forty-five-year-old sales executive who had been invited to do a firecupping
demonstration for one of the local fetish groups, which is where he
became acquainted with Vicki. Mark was a Dominant who had just come out of
a D/s relationship which had lasted several years. He had just gotten back into
the dating scene and was interested in meeting new people, so when Vicki
volunteered to be his “cupping bunny” for future demonstrations, Mark readily
agreed.
They quickly became very close, and before long, they were practically
inseparable. Within a month, they were making plans to move in together, and
even the normally taboo topic of marriage began to pop up occasionally in their
conversations. They were honestly just as surprised by their whirlwind romance
as their friends and families, and would often punctuate their discussions with,