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well.
It is unfortunate that Ian and Natalie’s experience is not all that uncommon.
There are many people in the vanilla world who,
like Natalie, are all too eager to equate BDSM with abuse.
Prior to these events, Natalie was also unable to separate any notion of D/s from
BDSM, which prevented her from exploring her submissive side for fear of
being exposed to the aspects of BDSM which she found disturbing. She also
falsely assumed that, because her love for Ian was strong, that she would be able
to power through her deep distaste for impact play and bondage. Finally, to top
off this menagerie of misunderstandings, Natalie
had assumed that, because Ian enjoyed impact play as a Top, he must be a
sadist. She understood that sadists derive their pleasure from the
pain and suffering of others, and so her own internal logic told her that her lack
of enjoyment of their kinky activities was irrelevant, as long as she was making
him happy. But, of course, she wasn’t.
Their tale is a lot like one of those classic O. Henry short stories, full of
profound misunderstandings and ending with a strangely ironic twist...
except their story has kinky sex toys and ends with a hot threesome.