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porn, and Natalie promised to keep an open mind about BDSM play and to giveit a try in the bedroom. Their marriage seemed to be back on the right trackagain.There was just one little problem. In Natalie’s heart of hearts, the kinky playthat Ian loved so much still felt like abuse, and never failed to trigger a flood ofpainful memories from her abusive childhood. Even so, Natalie not onlyparticipated in the kinky BDSM play, she encouraged it and pretended to enjoyit because she loved her husband very much and wanted desperately to makehim happy. And for a little while, it very much did.Ian had been so thrilled by his wife’s decision to try a little BDSM in thebedroom, he probably missed a lot of the littletelltale signs of the deception, at first. But as their experimentationbecame more elaborate and daring, he started noticing the kinds of things thatonly a husband knows about his wife. He had always loved the way Natalie’sbody reacted physiologically when she had an orgasm. Her face, neck and upperchest always flushed crimson red. Her nipplesinstantly hardened. Her heart pounded. And there was one more thingthat Natalie herself didn’t know about; you could literally see and feel her pussyand ass going through a rapid series of tight spasms,repeatedly clenching and releasing, again and again, faster than could ever beaccomplished through conscious effort. Once Ian began paying attention, herealized that Natalie had been faking her orgasms since they beganexperimenting with BDSM. What Ian didn’t know at the time was that, now, itwas Natalie who was sneaking out of their bed in the middle of the night tomasturbate to vanilla porn!When Ian confronted her about the phony orgasms, she admitted everything.She told him that she was just trying to make himhappy, and working to keep their marriage strong. She had felt that, because sheloved him so intensely, she ought to be able to enjoy BDSM with him through
sheer force of will. She had decided to simply ignore the fact that the BDSMplay actually made her nauseous, stirred up awful memories, and gave hernightmares. Ian explained to her that he canusually tell when she isn’t enjoying herself, and knowing that made it next toimpossible for him to enjoy himself, since he didn’t really consider himself amuch of a sadist. Instead of pleasing him, all Natalie had accomplished wasensuring that neither of them was having any fun.Ian and Natalie set aside the impact play and bondage for the time being, anddecided to focus instead on some of the kinks that Natalie did enjoy. She lovedbeing sexually submissive, enjoyed dressing up in kinky costumes, haddeveloped an interest in puppy play, and had always been bi-curious. Whiledoing some research onpet play, she came across an online reference to a local BDSM munch groupwhich had several members who were into pet play, too. She contacted a few ofthem, and was invited to an upcoming munch. Ian and Natalie soon becamemembers of the group and became friends with some experienced andknowledgeable folks who were able to mentor and guide them in theirexploration of thelifestyle. One of those people was a delightfully charming submissivenamed Gabrielle.Eventually, Ian and Natalie came to love Gabby and invited her to move in andjoin them in a D/s poly relationship. Nataliehad always considered herself a submissive, but had never realized that itcould be possible to explore that facet of her personality and her relationshipwithout having to deal with the “whips and chains” that she had alwaysassociated with submission and despised. Gabby shared Ian’s love for impactplay and bondage, and she also shared Natalie’s love of cosplay and pet play.Having Gabby in their relationship seemed to fill voids in both Ian’s andNatalie’s lives, and Gabby was positively giddy in love with the two of them, as
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sheer force of will. She had decided to simply ignore the fact that the BDSM
play actually made her nauseous, stirred up awful memories, and gave her
nightmares. Ian explained to her that he can
usually tell when she isn’t enjoying herself, and knowing that made it next to
impossible for him to enjoy himself, since he didn’t really consider himself a
much of a sadist. Instead of pleasing him, all Natalie had accomplished was
ensuring that neither of them was having any fun.
Ian and Natalie set aside the impact play and bondage for the time being, and
decided to focus instead on some of the kinks that Natalie did enjoy. She loved
being sexually submissive, enjoyed dressing up in kinky costumes, had
developed an interest in puppy play, and had always been bi-curious. While
doing some research on
pet play, she came across an online reference to a local BDSM munch group
which had several members who were into pet play, too. She contacted a few of
them, and was invited to an upcoming munch. Ian and Natalie soon became
members of the group and became friends with some experienced and
knowledgeable folks who were able to mentor and guide them in their
exploration of the
lifestyle. One of those people was a delightfully charming submissive
named Gabrielle.
Eventually, Ian and Natalie came to love Gabby and invited her to move in and
join them in a D/s poly relationship. Natalie
had always considered herself a submissive, but had never realized that it
could be possible to explore that facet of her personality and her relationship
without having to deal with the “whips and chains” that she had always
associated with submission and despised. Gabby shared Ian’s love for impact
play and bondage, and she also shared Natalie’s love of cosplay and pet play.
Having Gabby in their relationship seemed to fill voids in both Ian’s and
Natalie’s lives, and Gabby was positively giddy in love with the two of them, as
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