Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Chapter 11: Sex, Love, D/s, & BDSM
People mistake sex for love (and vice-versa) all the time, and that misperception
isn’t just limited to the vanilla folk.
This should come as no surprise to anyone. Yet, as complicated as that can be,
try to imagine what happens when you toss D/s and BDSM into the mix. It can
be enough to make your head spin, even if you’ve spent
your entire life navigating those treacherous waters. There are many, many
ways that a D/s relationship can be lost on dangerous shoals, but for our
purposes, we’ll focus here on three of the most common and frustrating:
mistaking BDSM for sex, mistaking love for BDSM, and mistaking BDSM for
D/s. The following three real-life case studies nicely illustrate not
only what can go wrong, but how it can go wrong.
Naturally, names and locales have been changed to protect the privacy of the
individuals concerned.