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to separate the wheat from the chaff when it comes to finding useful information
and making worthwhile friends. Always remember that
there are plenty of people in the BDSM lifestyle who cannot be a part of the
online community for a variety of reasons, including career and professional
factors, family concerns, or even technical reasons. Conversely, many people
are members of multiple web sites and online communities.
You should also keep in mind the fact that whatever online forum you use, it is
simply a communications medium. It is does not necessarily equate to the reallife
group of people you may encounter. Just because Joe-Bob has started a
local FetLife group related to your home town on the website doesn’t mean he is
the leader of any actual community group.
The second internet resource that you may find useful is social media. Doing
key word searches on social media sites like Facebook, Twitter, or Google + can
sometimes give you surprisingly good results. The best way to do it, however, is
to know exactly who and what you are looking for. Many BDSM groups have
their own social media pages, which are used to keep their members informed
about events and other news. Lifestyle-friendly businesses, such as sex toy
shops, leather goods merchants, piercing or tattoo parlors, and adult bookstores
also are likely to have social media accounts. Following or friending them can
often lead you to discover what you’re looking for on their friends list.
You can ask them about their social media sites whenever you visit, or you can
make a phone call to the establishment, or you can simply search for the names
of the businesses on the web site in question. Many of the individual BDSM
group members will have social media accounts which are specifically used to
connect with their kinky friends, and may welcome new friends. Don’t be
surprised, however, if they expect to have actually met you in real life first. On
that same note, if you also plan to use your social media to stay connected with
vanilla family, friends and coworkers, it might be a good idea to create a new
account specifically for your BDSM lifestyle connections.
Another great place to make progress is with blogs.
A search of a popular blog portal may lead you to a group right in your own
back yard. Since blogs can be a relatively easy way to create a web site,