Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

How to Find a Local BDSM
Group
Finding and contacting a local group of like-minded kinksters can have its own
peculiar challenges, particularly if you aren’t already a part of those social
circles. Chances are pretty good that you may already know someone in the D/s
lifestyle, but just don’t know it
yet. As we explained earlier, most of the people in the lifestyle try to stay under
the radar, and rarely go around wearing t-shirts that read “Pervy and Proud!”
Even so, you probably have a good idea which of your friends and acquaintances
is most likely to be connected to, or at least knowledgeable, about the lifestyle.
Diplomatically asking them about whether they know of any local fetish groups
may just pay off. Who knows, it could even turn into a kinky date for the
weekend. The recommendation or invitation of a friend is by far the easiest and
most reliable way to find and connect to a local BDSM group.
Another way to learn whether there is a group in your area is through (duh!) the
internet. While this may seem like the easiest and most obvious method to those
who are already in the lifestyle, it can be incredibly confusing and frustrating to
someone who doesn’t even know where to start. Googling “BDSM” and the
name of your town will usually give you about a million results, some nine
hundred thousand of which will turn out to be porn sites. Most of the rest will
consist of classified personal ads, merchants of kinky toys, and web cam sites.
The sad fact is, only a handful of websites out there will turn out to be useful to
you in your quest to find a local BDSM group.
One type of web site which you will find extremely useful is the sort that caters
specifically to the BDSM fetish community.
Surprisingly, while there are a lot of web sites that make the attempt, only a few
seem to be any good at it, and even that is debatable. Some of the most popular
BDSM community web sites include FetLife.com, Bondage.com, Alt.com, and
CollarMe.com. Each has its own unique strengths and
weaknesses, and boasts a large number of devotees. The utility of any of these
sites will depend a great deal upon your preferences and habits, and your ability