Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

furnishings, such as racks, platforms, suspension harnesses or St. Andrew’s
crosses can be especially dangerous to anyone attempting to place themselves on
or in the equipment without the assistance of another person who presumably
knows what he is doing. You probably don’t want to be forever
remembered by the group as that new person who needed to be rescued from the
furniture.
Third and finally, there’s that awkward issue of bodily fluids. Yes, we generally
think of bodily fluids as being on or in people’s bodies, but they also have a
curious habit of being on their sex toys, as well. In the BDSM community,
you’ll occasionally hear the
term “fluid bonding,” which generally refers to relationships between people
who have agreed to engage in unprotected sex involving the potential exchange
of bodily fluids. A fluid bond can also sometimes refer to a BDSM toy or piece
of equipment that should be reserved for the sole use of its owner, because it
comes into contact with bodily fluids such as semen,
secretions, saliva or blood. Even items that you might not often
associate with bodily fluids may fit into this category. A simple leather
flogger might not seem like a logical place for bodily fluids – until you consider
things like pussy floggings, and other types of floggings that draw blood or result
in ejaculation. Bottom line: Sharing toys for six-year-olds is a good thing; for
kinksters, maybe not so much.
Don’t take pictures. This is another rule that cannot be stressed enough, and
even though we’ve already listed it once in the munch protocols, it bears
revisiting in the context of play parties. At a
munch, the relevant and sensitive issue is generally who was there.
A play party complicates things exponentially for people who must keep their
kinky lifestyle and the more vanilla aspects of their lives
separate. A photograph of you in a restaurant, having a margarita and
chimichangas with your pervy friends can usually be explained away pretty