Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

This is particularly true if you are participating in a scene involving a new
group, a new play partner, or a new activity for you. Even if the scene involves
something you’ve done a hundred times, with a hundred other people, never
assume that things will play out the same way this time. It is relatively common
for people who do a lot of scening to develop their own unique and unexpected
ways of doing things, so if such a thing is possible, you should expect the
unexpected. You should also never presume, just
because certain things may be against the group’s rules, that your new play
partner knows or cares about the group’s rules. Obviously, and for a multitude
of good reasons, the best time to find out about any sex that
occurs in a scene is before it happens, not after the fact.
Don’t mess with equipment you are unfamiliar with. For that matter, you
shouldn’t mess with any equipment that isn’t
yours, unless the owner of the equipment expressly tells you that it’s okay to do
so. When it comes to their BDSM toys, some folks can be very protective and
often downright paranoid about people touching their stuff, and there are plenty
of good reasons to feel that way. First of all, as you’ll no doubt
learn when you start to build your own BDSM toy collection, some fetish toys
can be really expensive. No one wants to see his brand new $400 violet wand
being handled like a Wii controller.
Second, despite the fact that items used in BDSM
scenes are often called toys, they can sometimes be dangerous in ways that you
may not be able to foresee. It’s easy to assume that the knives that a certain
Dominant uses in his knife-play demonstration are going to be sharp, but the
dangers associated with other kinds of BDSM toys and equipment may not be
quite so readily apparent. For example, a pinwheel looks like a cute little toy,
until you playfully run it across your skin and create a neat little row of puncture
marks. The mentholated oils that are used in cupping are highly flammable, and
could easily turn you into a human torch if spilled
and ignited by a cigarette or candle. Larger pieces of equipment or