Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

revisiting it here, in our discussion of play parties. Resisting the urge
to hug a friend at a public munch is one thing; resisting the urge to touch the
scantily clad or naked person next to you, particularly if you are both in a highly
aroused state, is another thing entirely. For some people, an event like this is the
first time they’ll ever witness, with the lights on, anything quite so erotic that
doesn’t personally involve them. It may also be the first time they see, for the
first time, their secret fantasies being played out in real life, right in front of their
eyes. Needless to
say, for certain individuals, this can sometimes have a profound effect, like
making them forget that whole no-touching thing. Don’t be that individual.
Never interrupt a scene. A scene is called a scene for a very good reason – it is
usually a highly choreographed performance being enacted for an appreciative
audience. The performance can consist
of practically any fetish activity, from the ridiculously mundane to the
unbelievably complex or even dangerous. It isn’t uncommon for scenes to
include such things as open flames, knife-play, electricity, or even asphyxiation.
The very last thing scene participants need, in
those kinds of circumstances, is a distraction. It should come as no surprise to
anyone that the audience will be unappreciative of any
individual engaging in running commentary, interruptions, criticisms, or
attempts to inject themselves into the scene. If you are so seriously
concerned about a safety issue that you feel a scene should be stopped, you
should quietly and politely take one of the group leaders aside in a way that does
not cause a distraction to others, and voice your concerns privately to that
person. Chances are you’ll discover that your concerns
have already been adequately addressed in ways that you are simply unaware
of.
If you are planning to be involved in a scene, make no assumptions about sex.