Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

save you a lot of embarrassment later. Being an active listener means
more than just paying attention. It means becoming engaged, tactfully asking
questions, and getting clarification on the things you don’t entirely understand.
Do be interested in people. People usually find interested people to be
interesting.
One of the most flattering things that can happen to most of us is to discover that
someone has taken an interest in us. Show a little curiosity. Admit to being
intrigued, amused, or fascinated. Just
try not to make it the kind of aggressive, creepy interest that causes that person
to wonder if she remembered to pack her pepper-spray.
Do practice giving a little introduction of yourself that includes a bit about your
interest or experience in the lifestyle. In the business world, this is called an
“elevator pitch,” and it is designed to deliver essential information about you to
another person in a way that might pique his or her interest, and to accomplish it
all in 60 seconds or less. It is fairly common for a group’s long-time members
to be juggling several responsibilities simultaneously at these kinds of events.
They may be acting as hosts and hostesses,
welcoming new guests, coordinating things with the restaurant staff, ensuring the
right people know when and where the after-party (if there is one) will be, and
on top of everything else, paying sufficient attention to their spouses, partners,
dates or friends. Expecting that person to allot you more than a minute or two
for introductions may be just a little unrealistic.
Do treat people with respect, and try to see them as more than just their kink.
Proper
manners are a big deal to these people – possibly more so than to any other
group of people you will ever meet. Rendering proper respect
can include such things as respecting the lifestyle choices of others, the
avoidance of stereotypes and judgmental statements, and a quiet
acknowledgment of the fact that your standards of beauty, morality or
excitement may not be shared by everyone in attendance. If a conversation topic