Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

At best, you’ll embarrass yourself. Worse, someone could end up getting
seriously hurt, and that someone could be you. Contrary to
popular belief, most people in the BDSM community love to welcome and
mentor people who are new to it and eager to learn.
Do try to smile and be a good conversationalist. Your smile is always your best
asset
when it comes to making good first impressions! Don’t be afraid to start a
conversation with those you meet, and try to uphold your end of any
discussion that occurs. Giving monosyllabic answers to questions can be a quick
way to put a damper on just about any exchange, so try to avoid giving curt yes
or no responses. Even better, try to work a question of your own into your
responses. For example, when someone
asks, “Have you been in the lifestyle long?” you could respond with, “No, I am
pretty new to it, but I am excited about learning more about it. Are there people
in this group who do mentoring?”
Do try to find something to like and compliment about those you meet. This tip
works
wonderfully in just about any social situation, with any kind of group, not just
with fetish groups. One reason it can be very effective in this particular kind of
setting is because it can help you to appreciate each
individual there as more than just a walking collection of his or her kinks and
fetishes.
Do be observant and listen actively in order to learn more about the group.
Being
observant involves watching for the little things that transpire between group
members, taking note of subtle customs or traditions, and especially to how
people like to be addressed. Pay particular attention to which members
are paired-up with others, either as husband and wife, Master and slave,
Dominant and sub, or close friends. Being attentive to such things can