Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Customs and Protocols for a Munch
Things You Should Do
Do give your first name, and as appropriate, the online username people may
know you
by. It is generally not a good idea to give the people you meet at
these events your real full name, even if you have nothing to hide and are not
worried about who knows this sort of information about you. The reason is
simple. When you give your real full name, people may feel as if they’re being
pressured to give out their real full name in return, and they may care about who
knows that sort of information about them. They might also get the idea that you
don’t understand the reason for this unspoken rule, and why it is important to
many of the people who have to keep this part of their lives separate from their
friends, families and coworkers. The last thing you want at this point is to give
your new
friends any reason to believe you’d be careless with their personal
information. This is, however, a good time to tell them any online
usernames by which they may already know you, or by which they may look
you up after the munch.
Do be yourself. You may feel as if you’re under a lot of pressure to make a
good impression, and that can sometimes cause people to say and do strange
things. The key to making a good impression with this crowd is simple – be
authentic. Be yourself. Nothing raises a red flag in someone’s mind faster than
the feeling that the person they are talking to isn’t being entirely honest about
who or what they
are. Exaggerating or misrepresenting your experience, orientation, or lifestyle is
one of the quickest ways to become a pariah in the fetish community.
You should never attempt to bluff your way through anything related to this
lifestyle, not even the simplest conversations.