Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

concerns your temperament and social skills. Are you the sort of person that
others might describe as judgmental, abrasive, prone to
drama, lacking tact, or even just plain creepy? Do your friendships end just as
quickly as they begin, as the result of major
disagreements, misunderstandings, or arguments? Did your elementary
school teachers ever annotate your report cards with, “Doesn’t play well with
others?” Are you are overwhelmed with thoughts of actual nonconsensual sex
and violence, obsessed with the idea of doing someone
serious bodily harm, or fascinated with scenarios involving death?
If so, you should probably put any notion of joining your local fetish group
completely out of your head and proceed, instead, to see a good therapist. Do
not pass Go, do not collect $200.
Even if you consider yourself a wonderful person with a temperament of gold,
and as much as you may think you want and need to be a part of what goes on at
your local fetish group, you may just have to face the remote possibility that they
don’t quite agree with your
self-assessment. Most groups have a screening process that helps to
reduce the possibility of a disruptive or dangerous individual showing up at
certain types of events. The most common mechanism for doing that is the
public munch. A munch (sometimes called a social, coffee, lunch, dinner, meetup,
meeting or get-together) is typically a vanilla-style gathering
which is held in a public venue – usually a restaurant that is willing to set
aside table space for a large group. Munches may be held monthly, weekly,
or as-needed, depending on the level of interest. For the most part, a group
munch is indistinguishable from any other large gathering of
friends in a restaurant. Attendees are expected to dress vanilla, act vanilla, and
to be respectful of the other patrons of the establishment,