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Hot WaxHot wax play isn’t just for kinksters anymore; it’s become increasinglymainstream in its appeal as both an erotic and artistic pastime. Wax playgenerally consists of dripping or pouring molten candle wax onto someone’sskin to produce erotic sensations, for aesthetic purposes, or both. The types ofcandle wax used for erotic wax play typically fall into two categories: paraffin(a man-made, petroleum-based compound) and beeswax (which is secreted bythe wax glands of worker bees). There are many other varieties of wax that canbe used, but they all generally fall into these two categories, differing only in thevarious additives that are combined with the waxes to change its properties, suchas its burn characteristics, melting point, plasticity, or effects upon the skin. Ofthose four factors, the most important consideration for wax play should alwaysbe the wax’s melting point.Pain tolerance naturally varies from person to person but, on average, the waxwill feel hot on the skin at around 110° F., and painfully hot between 120° and125° F. Anything above that may cause second-degree burns, blistering, andperhaps even permanent scarring. Pure paraffin wax has an average meltingpoint between 115° and 154° F. Unadulterated beeswax has an average meltingpoint of about 145° F. Wax and candle manufacturers routinely add substancesto the wax to change its properties and some of those additives will raise orlower the melting point of the wax in unpredictable ways. For that reason, storeboughtcandles can vary widely in terms of their melting points. Candles thatcome in glass jars typically have a melting point of about 120° F. Standalonepillar-type candles usually have a melting point of 140° F. Elegant tapercandles of the sort that may grace your dinner table at a fine restaurant are themost dangerous of all, with an average melting point of 160°. The wild card inall of this is the unfortunate fact that candle manufacturers rarely label theirproducts in any way that indicates the type of wax or additives, much less it’smelting point. That’s why most people who are serious about hot wax play maketheir own candles; so they’ll positively know what’s in them.Crock pots, double boilers, and fondue sets are a convenient way to melt paraffinfor making your own candles or for wax play itself. Do keep in mind, however,that just because you adjust the temperature of your crock pot, that doesn’tnecessarily change the temperature of your molten wax. You should also be sureto regularly stir your molten wax, as the temperature of the wax can vary widely
in different parts of the same pot. You should be able to obtain all the materialsyou’ll need for candle-making at your local hobby store, to include paraffin,wicks, dyes (crayons work beautifully), molds and thermometers.There are several safety concerns you should be aware of, when it comes to waxplay. First and foremost, you should always be aware of the temperature of themolten wax you are using. This includes knowing how different factors canaffect that temperature. Molten wax will cool as it falls through the air onto theskin, for example. The closer you hold a candle to your subject, the hotter thewax will be when it reaches the skin. Molten wax that pools or puddles in lowareas, cracks, and crevices will retain more heat and will have a higher risk ofcausing burns or unintended pain. That could be especially problematic if thosecracks and crevices just happen to be where you keep your naughty-bits.All types of wax have a flashpoint, which is the temperature at which the waxwill burst into flame. Under normal conditions your wax will never get that hotin the course of a wax play scene, but accidents do happen. Keep your moltenwax away from hot objects, heating elements, or open flames and removeunnecessary objects which are flammable from your play area. Want to knowwhat’s worse than molten wax that has reached its flashpoint and has burst intoflames? This: molten wax that bursts into flames and startles you into droppingit, and is now spreading flames across your floor towards the curtains. On asomewhat related note, it’s usually a good idea to keep a portable fireextinguisher handy.The one thing that some people sometimes find exasperating about wax play isthe mess. A little forethought can go a long way towards avoiding those kinds offrustrations. Avoid getting wax in your bottom’s hair. It can be exceedinglydifficult to remove, once there. Some folks have had luck using nit-combs toremove hardened wax from their hair. Wear expendable clothing, and coveryour furnishings or carpet with a plastic drop cloth to protect them from dripsand spills. When accidents happen, use a hot iron and a paper towel or old t-shirt to blot the wax out of whatever it’s gotten into. Be sure to keep the iron’stemperature set low enough that it doesn’t melt the material, particularly if it’s asynthetic. Depending on the situation and material, a hot blow-dryer may workeven better. To remove hardened wax from your bottom’s skin more easily,consider a light coat of oil massaged into the skin prior to the hot wax session.Wax play can be a great way to introduce someone to sensation play, express
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in different parts of the same pot. You should be able to obtain all the materials
you’ll need for candle-making at your local hobby store, to include paraffin,
wicks, dyes (crayons work beautifully), molds and thermometers.
There are several safety concerns you should be aware of, when it comes to wax
play. First and foremost, you should always be aware of the temperature of the
molten wax you are using. This includes knowing how different factors can
affect that temperature. Molten wax will cool as it falls through the air onto the
skin, for example. The closer you hold a candle to your subject, the hotter the
wax will be when it reaches the skin. Molten wax that pools or puddles in low
areas, cracks, and crevices will retain more heat and will have a higher risk of
causing burns or unintended pain. That could be especially problematic if those
cracks and crevices just happen to be where you keep your naughty-bits.
All types of wax have a flashpoint, which is the temperature at which the wax
will burst into flame. Under normal conditions your wax will never get that hot
in the course of a wax play scene, but accidents do happen. Keep your molten
wax away from hot objects, heating elements, or open flames and remove
unnecessary objects which are flammable from your play area. Want to know
what’s worse than molten wax that has reached its flashpoint and has burst into
flames? This: molten wax that bursts into flames and startles you into dropping
it, and is now spreading flames across your floor towards the curtains. On a
somewhat related note, it’s usually a good idea to keep a portable fire
extinguisher handy.
The one thing that some people sometimes find exasperating about wax play is
the mess. A little forethought can go a long way towards avoiding those kinds of
frustrations. Avoid getting wax in your bottom’s hair. It can be exceedingly
difficult to remove, once there. Some folks have had luck using nit-combs to
remove hardened wax from their hair. Wear expendable clothing, and cover
your furnishings or carpet with a plastic drop cloth to protect them from drips
and spills. When accidents happen, use a hot iron and a paper towel or old t-
shirt to blot the wax out of whatever it’s gotten into. Be sure to keep the iron’s
temperature set low enough that it doesn’t melt the material, particularly if it’s a
synthetic. Depending on the situation and material, a hot blow-dryer may work
even better. To remove hardened wax from your bottom’s skin more easily,
consider a light coat of oil massaged into the skin prior to the hot wax session.
Wax play can be a great way to introduce someone to sensation play, express
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