Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Training a Dominant
Can a person be trained to be a Dominant? The answer is complicated, and
depends entirely upon what kind of Dominant you’re referring to, how badly the
person in question wants it, and whether he is capable of fundamental change on
a core personality level.
The first factor is: What kind of Dominant are you trying to produce through
training? If the answer to that question is, you’re looking to train a person who
can be taught to act in a Dominant role, well then of course you can train
someone to be a Dominant. Anyone with even a modicum of acting ability will
fit the bill nicely. Of course, the issue then becomes, to what extent can you
expect that person to “stay in character” and will he be capable of fulfilling
those expectations? One should always remember that a person who is taught to
play the role of a Dominant and puts on that mantle may eventually grow bored
with the role at some point and cast it off. While it is true that such an
eventuality may not be too critical in a mutual role play environment, it can be
completely devastating in other situations. When serious relationship
commitments are made based upon the reasonable expectation that your partner
is actually a Dominant and is supposed to stay that way, the end of a role play
can signal bad times ahead.
But what if you’re seeking to produce what we’ve thus far been referring to as a
true Dominant through training? Is it at all possible? If it is possible, is it
something that anyone should attempt to do? As usual, the answers can be
complicated, but here they are, in a nutshell: Yes, it is possible. It’s very
difficult, but it is possible. Whether it should be attempted depends entirely on
the trainer, the person being trained, his reasons for wanting to be trained, how
badly he wants it, and whether he is capable of such a fundamental character
changes. Let’s briefly examine each of those factors in turn.
Anyone who attempts to train another person to be a true Dominant must first be
a true Dominant, himself. If this is not the case, his efforts will be doomed from
the start. It would be a lot like a non-dancer trying to teach someone to cha-cha,
or a negaholic attempting to teach someone how to be an optimist. Anyone who
may be contemplating an attempt to turn someone else into a Dominant should
first engage in some serious soul searching. It is not a decision that should ever
be made lightly. Even when the trainer has all of the right credentials, there is