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the construction of paddles, but they can also be made from metal, bamboo,plastic, carbon-fiber composites, and other synthetic materials. Designvariations may include altering the size and shape of the paddle, adding holes toenhance the swing speed and strike of the paddle, cutting shapes or letters intothe blade so that it leaves a unique pattern on the subjects skin, and using specialor rare types of wood to enhance the weight, strength or beauty of the paddle.Paddles may be designed to be held in one hand, or swung with both hands.When purchasing a paddle, personal preferences will typically dictate most ofyour choices, since the functionality of a paddle is rarely called into question. Itis for that reason that a paddle’s aesthetics and appearance often take on greaterimportance in the buying decision. Certain types of wood can lend a certainelegance and beauty to a paddle that otherwise appear very ordinary. Some ofthe more unique and attractive woods used in the construction of paddles includeoak, bamboo, maple, black walnut, hickory, mahogany, teak, South Americanmonterillo, Bolivian rosewood, African padauk, and African bubinga.It’s interesting that, for such a commonly used and simply constructed item, thesafety concerns regarding paddles could probably fill an entire chapter. Youmight think that some of these safety tips are simply a matter of common sensebut, unfortunately these days, there’s nothing common about common sense.When using a paddle, always strike using the flat side of the paddle blade, neverwith the edge. Striking with the blade perfectly parallel to the skin surfaceensures that the force of the strike is evenly distributed across the full length andbreadth of the paddle blade. If there is even the slightest angle which deviatesfrom the parallel, the strike could be far more painful than intended, and mighteven cause serious or permanent damage. A full-force edge strike from a paddlecould easily break a bone or sever nerves and tendons.It’s also very important to focus your paddle strikes to the muscled or fattytissues of the body. By that, we mean the buttocks, thighs, breasts, shoulderblades and certain portions of the torso. Avoid bony areas, such as the arms,shoulders, shins, hips, hands and feet, and critically vulnerable areas like thespinal column, kidneys, neck and head. The most common targets for paddleplay are the buttocks and the backs of the thighs, and it is not uncommon forpeople to simply assume that those will be your targets. If your plan involvesstriking other parts of the body, then it’s extremely important that you discussthose plans with the person who’ll be on the receiving end of the paddling.
Even well-padded areas of the body, such as the buttocks, can becomeproblematic under certain circumstances. Certain body positions can sometimespull the body tissues taut, reducing the amount of soft tissue providing naturalpadding, making bone and nerve tissues more vulnerable. If the sciatic nerve,which runs from the lower spine through the buttocks and down the legs,becomes irritated or compressed, it can lead to an extremely painful conditioncalled sciatica.Paddling the breasts, if it is done at all, should be done with a lighter instrument.Prior to engaging in any breast paddling, a discussion should take place with thebottom to determine whether she has a personal or family history of fibroids inthe breasts. There have been studies published which seem to establish aconnection between impact play to the breasts and the growth of fibroids in thebreast tissue. Fibroids are not inherently dangerous to a woman’s health, butthey can result in false positives in mammograms and may affect the aestheticappearance of the breasts.Any impact play focused on the genitals - male or female - should beapproached with a great deal of caution, not to mention forewarning and franknegotiation. Even if a bottom agrees to or even craves it does not necessarilymean it’s a good idea. Impact play aimed at the genitals can not only beextremely painful, it can sometimes result in irreversible damage to a person’sreproductive organs.Whatever type of paddle you use there will always be a possibility of damage tothe bottom’s skin. Some paddles are constructed with holes in the blade toreduce air-drag and increase the speed and force of the blows, which canincrease the probability of skin damage, as well. Beginners are sometimes quitesurprised to see that a freshly paddled part of the body which appears to beharmlessly red immediately after the paddling can turn alarmingly purple, blackand blue within a few hours. In other rare cases, large water blisters or bloodblisters may appear, and skin may simply peel away or slough off. Everyindividual has a uniquely different skin type and impact tolerance, and the skin’sdurability may even differ widely from place to place on the same body.Obviously, the skin on the soles of your feet can take a lot more abuse than theskin on your inner thighs.Our skin is the largest organ of the human body, and damaging it can interferewith a number of important functions that are critical to your health. Some of
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the construction of paddles, but they can also be made from metal, bamboo,
plastic, carbon-fiber composites, and other synthetic materials. Design
variations may include altering the size and shape of the paddle, adding holes to
enhance the swing speed and strike of the paddle, cutting shapes or letters into
the blade so that it leaves a unique pattern on the subjects skin, and using special
or rare types of wood to enhance the weight, strength or beauty of the paddle.
Paddles may be designed to be held in one hand, or swung with both hands.
When purchasing a paddle, personal preferences will typically dictate most of
your choices, since the functionality of a paddle is rarely called into question. It
is for that reason that a paddle’s aesthetics and appearance often take on greater
importance in the buying decision. Certain types of wood can lend a certain
elegance and beauty to a paddle that otherwise appear very ordinary. Some of
the more unique and attractive woods used in the construction of paddles include
oak, bamboo, maple, black walnut, hickory, mahogany, teak, South American
monterillo, Bolivian rosewood, African padauk, and African bubinga.
It’s interesting that, for such a commonly used and simply constructed item, the
safety concerns regarding paddles could probably fill an entire chapter. You
might think that some of these safety tips are simply a matter of common sense
but, unfortunately these days, there’s nothing common about common sense.
When using a paddle, always strike using the flat side of the paddle blade, never
with the edge. Striking with the blade perfectly parallel to the skin surface
ensures that the force of the strike is evenly distributed across the full length and
breadth of the paddle blade. If there is even the slightest angle which deviates
from the parallel, the strike could be far more painful than intended, and might
even cause serious or permanent damage. A full-force edge strike from a paddle
could easily break a bone or sever nerves and tendons.
It’s also very important to focus your paddle strikes to the muscled or fatty
tissues of the body. By that, we mean the buttocks, thighs, breasts, shoulder
blades and certain portions of the torso. Avoid bony areas, such as the arms,
shoulders, shins, hips, hands and feet, and critically vulnerable areas like the
spinal column, kidneys, neck and head. The most common targets for paddle
play are the buttocks and the backs of the thighs, and it is not uncommon for
people to simply assume that those will be your targets. If your plan involves
striking other parts of the body, then it’s extremely important that you discuss
those plans with the person who’ll be on the receiving end of the paddling.