Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

It is not uncommon for some people - typically people who have more money
than common sense and who are relatively new to BDSM - to attempt to
purchase credibility through their toys and equipment. They may not have any
experience to speak of, but at least they can boast that they have the best toys in
town. Just as some vanilla folks may use expensive cars and fine jewelry to
bolster or flaunt their social status, there are a few BDSM folks who do the
same with fetish toys and equipment. Owning a Rolls
Royce doesn’t necessarily make someone a good driver, and owning cool or
expensive BDSM gear doesn’t necessarily make him a good Top, either.
Fourth, and finally, you should understand the need to fluid bond certain types of
fetish toys to specific individuals. Fluid bonding is the practice of ensuring that
toys or equipment which come into contact with bodily fluids are reserved for
the exclusive use of a single person, and no one else. Most of us instinctively
understand this concept when it comes to things that are designed to come into
contact with bodily fluids, such as vibrators, dildos and butt
plugs. But how many of us can truly say that we know where a flogger, or
riding crop, or even a length of rope has been? The problem
is further complicated by the fact that porous materials, such as leather, wood
and hemp, can be practically impossible to sanitize effectively.
This leaves us with two unpalatable options; one of them outrageously
expensive, and the other absurdly unrealistic. The
first option is to always assume that toys will come into contact with bodily
fluids and to fluid bond certain toys to certain individuals. The logical
consequence of this is you’ll end up purchasing
new equipment each time you play with a new partner, which can quickly get
prohibitively expensive. The other option involves going to ridiculous
lengths to ensure that your equipment doesn’t ever come into contact with
anyone’s bodily fluids, under any circumstances. The only conceivable way to
accomplish such a thing would