Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )
Chapter 9: BDSM Toys & SafetyTypically, when most people think of BDSM, the first things that come to mindare the awesome toys. There is an infinite variety of implements that can be usedin the many different kinds of BDSM play, with new concepts, designs andtechnology being added every day. In this chapter, we’ll examine some of thebasic types and examples of BDSM toys, equipment and furnishings, and discusshow they can be used safely.
Toy TipsThere are a few things that I think are important to touch upon before we get toowrapped up (pun semi-intended) in our examination of the joys of kinky toys.The first would be this one: As exciting and wonderful as these toys can be, theycan’t replace the human touch and they are piss-poor substitutes for realrelationships.Perhaps my personal bias towards meaningful D/s relationships is showing here,but I truly believe that, ideally, these toys and their related activities are bestenjoyed with someone you love. If that isn’t possible, the next best thing is toenjoy them with a good friend.I’m not saying you shouldn’t or wouldn’t enjoy using them with strangers; I’mjust telling you where you’ll get the best bang for your buck.The second tip I’d like to give you is this: Avoid becoming so focused on yourtoys that you begin to see people as accessories. A person with a healthyperspective thinks, “I love being with my girl; I can’t wait to try out some ofthese news toyswith her!” Conversely, someone with a toy-focused perspective thinks, “I lovemy new violet wand; I can’t wait to try it out on whomever.”It is, of course, perfectly natural to be excited about your new toys. But do tryto remember that your toys should exist to please yourpartner; your partners don’t exist to justify your toys.The third word of advice concerns an unfortunate tendency among many in theBDSM lifestyle to equate sophisticated or expensive fetish equipment withexperience and judgment. It’s natural to believe that because people have thelatest gadgets or top of the line fetishequipment, that they know what they’re doing. But that isn’t always the case.Be careful about assuming anything about potential play partners based simplyon their toys. They may not have a clue.
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Chapter 9: BDSM Toys & Safety
Typically, when most people think of BDSM, the first things that come to mind
are the awesome toys. There is an infinite variety of implements that can be used
in the many different kinds of BDSM play, with new concepts, designs and
technology being added every day. In this chapter, we’ll examine some of the
basic types and examples of BDSM toys, equipment and furnishings, and discuss
how they can be used safely.
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