Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

The article examined the differences between the people who survived lifethreatening
situations, such as muggings or plane crashes, and those who didn’t
survive. Somewhat surprisingly, the critical difference between the survivors
and those who didn’t survive turned out to be a willingness to react as if their
lives depended upon it. In other words, the people who were more concerned
with staying alive than they were with looking foolish tended to be the people
who lived to talk about it. Consequently, my rule of thumb became: When in
doubt or in possible danger, be willing to make a fool of yourself.
Trust your gut. Do whatever it takes to secure your safety. Don’t agree to
anything that doesn’t feel right to you, no matter how much you may want to
avoid being embarrassed or embarrassing the other person. Don’t worry about
looking foolish, or about making a scene. The attention you draw just might
determine whether you live or die. When your instincts tell you that you are in
danger, do the unexpected. Make some noise. Fight back. Throw something
through a window. Disable your vehicle or strike another vehicle with your car
if you’re being forced to drive somewhere. If you want to increase your odds of
surviving a life-threatening situation, then you need to be willing to put up a
fight or, at the very least, call some attention to yourself. Looking foolish
should be the least of your worries, at that point. No one ever really ever dies of
embarrassment.
An Ounce of Insurance
No, you’re not going to find an actual insurance policy that covers first meetings
that go horribly wrong. You can, however, get a great deal more mileage out of
some of the other safety precautions you’ve taken, if the person you’re meeting
is aware that you’re taking precautions. You definitely don’t want to reveal the
details of every safety precaution planned, but there’s certainly nothing wrong
with casually informing your new friend that you are taking some. If your new
friend truly has your best interests at heart, he will be glad that you’re taking a
smart and cautious approach. On the other hand, if he was hoping you’d be an
easy target, he now knows otherwise. Think of it as a final bit of insurance that
helps to prevent bad things from happening.