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important phone numbers and having ready access to emergency cash.
Most of us have gotten so used to being able to store important phone numbers
in our cell phones, that we rarely memorize even our most commonly called
numbers, anymore. How many of us would know how to contact our friends or
extended family members if our cell phones were lost or taken away from us?
If you have a poor memory for such things, you might want to secrete a few
important phone numbers somewhere that would be accessible and available to
you in any emergency. While in the military, I actually knew a few people who
had important numbers unobtrusively tattooed somewhere on their bodies.
Learning how to get ready access to emergency cash if your wallet or purse is
lost or stolen can be exceedingly difficult, but it is possible. Some banks, for
example, have pre-scanned your identification into their computer system and so
may not require you to show ID in order to conduct a financial transaction.
Tellers are able to just pull it up on their computer monitors. Find out if your
bank has a similar system. Many credit card issuers have special programs that
are designed to help you out in the event that your wallet and credit cards are
stolen. Give this problem some thought before it becomes an emergency.
Have Someone Check On You
Having someone check on you is critical. By having a friend or associate place a
phone call to you at some point during your meeting, you greatly increase the
odds that (1) you’ll be missed, should you disappear, (2) you’ll get timely
assistance, if you need it and (3) the person you’re meeting will realize that there
is someone out there watching out for you. This knowledge could make him
think twice about any plans to harm you.
Your arrangement of a safety check phone call should also include plans for
what is commonly referred to as a “duress signal.” A duress signal is a codeword
that only you and your friend know, which tells your friend that she should
immediately contact the police. Duress signals are designed to be used when
someone is forcing you to lie and claim that everything is okay. To arrange a
safety check and duress signal, simply tell a friend, “I’m meeting someone for
the first time this evening. Would you please do me a huge favor and call my
cell phone at around 7 PM? If I say anything about my dog, then you know you
should call the police, since we both know I don’t own a dog.”
If you are not fortunate enough to have a friend or family member who can be