Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Practical Considerations
There are plenty of factors which should be taken into consideration if you’re
planning a first meeting of any kind, and especially if your budding relationship
falls outside the boundaries of what might be
considered a vanilla connection. The most important, of course, should be safety
considerations, and we’ll cover them at length in the next section. Before we do
that, let’s discuss timing, expense, settings,
distractions, and some of the other practical considerations you should include in
your plan.
Timing, as they say, is everything. The timing of a first meeting should be
commensurate with its purpose. It may never be too early for an acquainting
first meeting, but a hook-up or transitional first meeting that happens too early in
a relationship could be a disaster. There are
other timing considerations that you might not think to include in your
planning, but can definitely spell the difference between a successful meeting
and an epic failure. Take, for example, the timing of a woman’s menstrual
cycle. By failing to take something like that into account while coordinating
your kinky weekend together, you could inadvertently be
throwing a monkey wrench into your well-laid plans.
Expense is one of those considerations that we don’t really like to have to think
about, but are forced to by the harsh realities of life.
Factoring the expense of a meeting into your plan should go beyond simply
deciding whether you can afford to do it or not. It’s obviously not going to be an
issue of any real significance if your meeting is local and can be accomplished at
minimal or no expense. But if there’s going to
be any travel involved, things begin to get a little more complicated.
You may be able to afford to do it, but the question that you should really be