Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

hit their first minor bump in the road, it mushroomed to the height of Mount
Everest. The two had been friends in high school, but had never actually dated
and, during their college years, they lost touch completely. Twenty years later
and newly divorced, Suzanne was contemplating a return to the dating scene
when she got the notion of reconnecting with William. She did, and was thrilled
to learn that he was still single. They lived 1500 miles apart, but that didn’t
discourage the torrid online romance that blossomed quickly between them in
the next few months.
It was decided that they should meet. True, it wasn’t technically their first
meeting, since they had known each other in high school, but that was over
twenty-five years ago and, for all intents and purposes, they had each matured
into different people now. Suzanne made plans to fly from Texas, where she
lived, to Florida, where she would spend an entire, glorious week with William
at his beachfront home. As the date grew nearer, their anticipation and
expectations grew exponentially with each passing hour.
Finally, the much awaited day arrived, and Suzanne stepped off a plane and
leaped joyously into William’s waiting embrace. They raced back to the house
where, unfortunately, the mounting anticipation, stress and performance anxiety
all combined to create a perfect storm of erectile dysfunction for William. As
acutely embarrassing as that must have been for him, it was further compounded
when Suzanne interpreted it as a confirmation of her worst fears - that she was a
disappointment to him.
The next six days were agonizingly awkward and uncomfortable for the two of
them. Neither was particularly interested in making another attempt at intimacy;
they each just wanted the week to be over, so they could put this experience
behind them. It had simply never occurred to either of them that actual events
might deviate from the script in their heads. Sadly, their relationship never
recovered from this blow. After Suzanne returned home to Texas, there were a
few chats and phone calls, but they slowed to a trickle and then eventually
stopped altogether. They are now back where they started; no longer in touch.
If there is one lesson to be learned from their story, it should be that it wasn’t a
case of erectile dysfunction that waylaid their plans; it was the emotional
reactions based on their deep-seated insecurities and fears that magnified what
should have been a simple speed-bump into a mountain. I typically refer to a
minor mishap like this one as a speed bump for a reason. If you are prepared for