Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

few days. Allot yourselves plenty of time to feel your way through the process
of getting comfortable with one another socially, physically, intimately and
kinkily, even if you think you already know each other better than you’ve ever
known anyone.
There are always surprises.
You should probably grab a highlighter right now and highlight the crap out of
that last sentence.
The Transitional First Meeting
A transitional first meeting is one that is planned for the express purpose of
taking an online relationship to the next level. It doesn’t necessarily mean that a
24-7 life together under the same roof is about to commence immediately but,
for many, it does constitute a necessary first step towards that goal. It is an
acknowledgment that the nature of the relationship is about to change, and that
you are both willing to accept a greater degree of risk in hopes of reaping greater
rewards as a result.
A true transitional first meeting assumes that you already know each other quite
well, and that you have discussed your mutual goals and possible plans for the
future. Despite the fact that you are already well-acquainted and have a
foundational relationship from which to work, your expectations for a meeting
like this still need to be managed. The odds may be skewed more to your favor
as a result of your preparation, but there is still a lot that can go wrong,
particularly if you are expecting it to be all rainbows and unicorns.
Much of what we said earlier regarding hook-up first meetings applies equally to
transitional first meetings. Be sure to give yourselves plenty of time to get
comfortable with each other on a variety of levels, and expect to hit a few bumps
in the road. Surprises, when they are met with the proper attitude and some
degree of preparation, don’t necessarily have to turn into show-stoppers. It
certainly doesn’t hurt to have a back-up plan ready, just in case things don’t go
according to the script.
Take, for example, the disheartening case of William and Suzanne, who
meticulously planned their first week together so extensively and exclusively
around the mind-blowing kinky sex that was supposed to occur, that when they