Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Types of First Meetings:
First meetings can come in a variety of flavors, and your strategies for surviving
them depends a lot upon what kind of first meeting you’re considering. By the
way, when I say surviving, I generally mean getting through the meeting with
your dignity intact, but we’ll be discussing the other kind later in this chapter as
well. First meetings typically fall into five categories: imaginary, serendipitous,
acquainting, hook-up, and transitional.
The Imaginary First Meeting
The imaginary first meeting is a first meeting that never happens, for whatever
reason. It is neither inherently a good thing, nor a bad thing. It is what it is. It
is almost always idealized in our minds as the coming together of two souls in a
perfect alignment of love, lust, libido, laughter and any other sexy, happy “L”
words we can think of. The truth, however, is that the real thing rarely lives up
to the fantasies that we’ve built up in our heads. Some people in certain
circumstances should be willing to acknowledge the fact that an imaginary first
meeting is all that they can realistically hope for. Others sometimes go through
with a real-life first meeting only to find themselves wishing that they had kept
things virtual or long-distance. And then, there are those who attempt to meet
someone in real-life, but the encounter remains imaginary despite their best
efforts. You may count me as someone who has found himself in all of these
scenarios at one point or another, but the most interesting experience involved
my attempt to arrange what I had hoped would be a transitional first meeting
but, instead, ended up being mostly an imaginary one.
Her screen name was Sensual. Just that. There were none of the numbers,
extraneous letters, or silly modifiers that are tacked on to a name these days to
differentiate a person from the thousands of other people using the same or a
similar name. We were among the earliest adopters of internet chat and for all I
knew she may have been the very first Sensual. She was an intelligent and
funny redheaded submissive with piercing blue eyes and the most adorable
freckles. In other words, she had all the qualities that can effortlessly turn my
legs to Jell-O. I didn’t know much else about her at first, but we grew incredibly
close over the course of the next several months as we went from text chats to
trading photographs and spending hours on the telephone. That, in itself, was
quickly becoming somewhat problematic, since she lived in Washington State