Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Chapter 8: The First Meeting
Nothing strikes fear into our hearts like the prospect of meeting someone who is
important to us for the very first
time. The list of anxieties that can threaten to turn this event into a
nightmare is practically infinite, the chief among them being: What if I don’t live
up to his or her expectations? Fear of the unknown,
dreading the inevitable awkwardness, concerns for safety, and even uncertainty
about the possibility of intimacy or sex can make any first meeting a harrowing
experience, even for someone who has been through it many times previously.
We may never be able to completely get rid of those butterflies in your
stomach, but there are some things you can do to get them flying in formation
long enough to survive that first meeting.
First meetings can be particularly tricky for Dominants and submissives, for the
simple reason that it’s often difficult to know just how much of your D/s side is
appropriate for this get-together.
You don’t want to conceal what is undeniably an integral part of your core
personality, but you also shouldn’t want to exceed the boundaries of propriety,
frighten the other person, or endanger yourself in any way. What you’re
left with is a delicate balancing act between revealing who you are, and imposing
yourself upon the person you’re meeting.
An imposition occurs when someone feels pressured or obligated to act or make
a hasty decision based upon your revelations or behavior. To understand the
difference between the two,
consider how a Dominant might choose to conduct himself at a first meeting