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My Two Cents on Gor
I admit it. I’ve never really been a big fan of the Gorean lifestyle. Sure, I loved
reading John Norman’s Gor novels as a teen, but the Gorean thing always struck
me as a little too role-play and not enough real life, and I’ve always fancied
myself as a real life kind of guy. My initially negative bias was no doubt
influenced by an endless parade of teen D&D geeks posing as Goreans in
internet chat rooms. I have, however, learned a great deal more about the real
world Gorean subculture since then, and become good friends with many who
follow the Gorean way.
So, to all of my Gorean friends and associates, I would just like to say, I
apologize for once believing that you were all self-deluded, pervy, sci-fi whack
jobs. I now know how misguided I was in that belief. That description probably
only applies to about half of you. Seriously though, I do believe that Gor, like
D/s in general, is a mindset that can be expressed healthily in a variety of ways,
but a Gorean friend probably said it best, when she wrote:
Dear Friends and Future Friends,
Please don’t lecture me about my lifestyle choices, one of which happens to be
the Gorean lifestyle. Don’t insult my intelligence by calling me misguided or
naïve because you think I’m living in a “fantasy” world. The Gorean way isn’t
just a fantasy, it is a mindset and a philosophy. It is a belief in a natural order of
things, which includes the inherent dominance of men over women. It is striving
to learn how to freely surrender one’s will to her Master, and belonging to him
with all of my might, mind, and soul.
Yes, I am aware that Gor is a fictional planet, the subject of a pulp science
fiction series by John Norman. It doesn’t exist. I know this. I really am not the
fool you apparently think I am. I not only exist right here on planet Earth, but I
also happen to be a very capable, fully functioning member of society with a
good job, a nice car, and an awesome Master, whom I refer to as my husband
around the people who just don’t get it.
It doesn’t matter to me that they don’t get it. It doesn’t matter to me that you
don’t seem to, either. It doesn’t matter that I haven’t read all thirty-two of the
Gor novels or consider myself some kind of whiz-bang expert on all things
Gorean. I don’t join all the Gor discussion forums, or register on Gorean web