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accountable in all things, and the glorification of a warrior ethic.A person living a practical Gorean lifestyle adopts and applies thesephilosophies not simply because he or she is a big fan of John Norman’s novelsor because it’s an entertaining internet chat room activity. They do it becausethey truly believe in those ideals and because they work in their lives and in theirrelationships. This is not to say that the same ideals would work as effectively inany one else’s life. Author Robert A. Heinlein once said, “One man’s theologyis another man’s belly-laugh,” and it is equally as true when it comes tophilosophy and culture. Just as the Buddhist philosophy may work wonderfullyfor some people, but not for others, so it is with Gorean philosophy.The Gorean way of life may not be your particular cup of tea, but for those whoare happily ensconced in a delightfully fulfilling Gorean relationship, whatmatters most is not our opinion of them, but the joy that they share in their ownlittle piece of Gor on Earth.
My Two Cents on GorI admit it. I’ve never really been a big fan of the Gorean lifestyle. Sure, I lovedreading John Norman’s Gor novels as a teen, but the Gorean thing always struckme as a little too role-play and not enough real life, and I’ve always fanciedmyself as a real life kind of guy. My initially negative bias was no doubtinfluenced by an endless parade of teen D&D geeks posing as Goreans ininternet chat rooms. I have, however, learned a great deal more about the realworld Gorean subculture since then, and become good friends with many whofollow the Gorean way.So, to all of my Gorean friends and associates, I would just like to say, Iapologize for once believing that you were all self-deluded, pervy, sci-fi whackjobs. I now know how misguided I was in that belief. That description probablyonly applies to about half of you. Seriously though, I do believe that Gor, likeD/s in general, is a mindset that can be expressed healthily in a variety of ways,but a Gorean friend probably said it best, when she wrote:Dear Friends and Future Friends,Please don’t lecture me about my lifestyle choices, one of which happens to bethe Gorean lifestyle. Don’t insult my intelligence by calling me misguided ornaïve because you think I’m living in a “fantasy” world. The Gorean way isn’tjust a fantasy, it is a mindset and a philosophy. It is a belief in a natural order ofthings, which includes the inherent dominance of men over women. It is strivingto learn how to freely surrender one’s will to her Master, and belonging to himwith all of my might, mind, and soul.Yes, I am aware that Gor is a fictional planet, the subject of a pulp sciencefiction series by John Norman. It doesn’t exist. I know this. I really am not thefool you apparently think I am. I not only exist right here on planet Earth, but Ialso happen to be a very capable, fully functioning member of society with agood job, a nice car, and an awesome Master, whom I refer to as my husbandaround the people who just don’t get it.It doesn’t matter to me that they don’t get it. It doesn’t matter to me that youdon’t seem to, either. It doesn’t matter that I haven’t read all thirty-two of theGor novels or consider myself some kind of whiz-bang expert on all thingsGorean. I don’t join all the Gor discussion forums, or register on Gorean web
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DOMINATION & SUBMISSION:THE BDSMREL
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DedicationThis book is for the peop
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Primal InstinctsMy Two Cents on Pri
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My Two Cents on Sex, Love, and BDSM
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PREFACE
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getting just a little ahead of your
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That is why you should fully unders
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ACKNOWLEDGMENTSI want to express my
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Chapter 1: The DominantWhat is a Do
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great majority of humanity.A very t
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IntrospectionDo you like being told
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more focused on facts than feelings
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also the not-so-insignificant matte
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equal partnership between two peopl
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If you are polyamorous, are youpoly
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Types of DominantsThere are many di
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subculture within the D/s lifestyle
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person’s anus. Yes, there really
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life to keep twenty-seven angry sla
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from such riff-raff? He knows all o
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was me - or more accurately, my own
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crying out, “Geez, Sir Knight! No
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Chapter 2: The SubmissiveWhat is a
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IntrospectionIf you are someone who
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I stated previously, most people ca
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behavior pleases her mate great, bu
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at the beginning of any relationshi
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her Dominant to have an orgasm - an
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Types of SubmissivesIf you are in t
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also requires us to believe that we
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hard - really hard.Theoretically, k
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accomplished by dinner time. This c
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categories: kittens, puppies, and p
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a better partner. This usually cons
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My Two Cents on SubmissionJade simp
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Charlotte, the Spider: I'm versatil
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the two extremes of Dominant and su
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IntrospectionHow do you know if you
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experience to speak of and just a f
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enjoyed practically everything she
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Sue, but submissive to Diane. His k
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I have a very good friend named Ann
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Chapter 4: The PrimalWhat is a Prim
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Michael Makai’s PRIMAAL AnalysisP
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o Award yourself an extra point if
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How Primal Are You?0 to 15:You are
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Primal PreferencesNow that we’ve
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covered-in-birthday-cake kind of se
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encounters. When Furries gather in
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Primal ScenesA primal scene is not
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She drew back for a split second, a
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Primal InstinctsIn the final analys
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We went back to her house, where we
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Chapter 5: Online BDSM Relationship
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CompuServe chat became available, i
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worlds? The process of choosing an
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sort. There’s no shame in admitti
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the online BDSM lifestyle, but they
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ChallengesDespite all of the appare
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should suffice to know that if thes
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· The percentage of vanilla online
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them. An IP address usually looks s
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Where Is It Going?Major League Base
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by a radioactive mule.” (Hat tip
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people discover the utility of cert
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supposed neighborhood. If someone t
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The safety advantage of online BDSM
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come back. It’s that much of a sh
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Chapter 6: The CollarWhat is a coll
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adornments such as rhinestones or m
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Types of CollarsA collar represents
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consideration are also collars of p
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vulnerable in BDSM environments tha
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consideration involves money or mer
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possibly be wrong with that? Well,
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submissive the ability to choose wh
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Your Collar, Your CommitmentIn this
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considered a yin and yang metaphor,
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Chapter 7: The Gorean WayThere are
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Gor novels from 1967 through the mi
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What is a Gorean?Devotees of the
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What Do Goreans Really Believe?If w
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The Gorean SlaveGorean slaves are c
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by raiding parties. They refer to t
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"Even though she had then been turn
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Rent Slave. A rent slave is a slave
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Categories of CollarsGorean merchan
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Coil CollarA coil collar is constru
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within, will be a message." (John N
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occasions, the sleeve collar may be
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ceremonies described by Norman in h
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Now, with his two hands, he held th
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Gor in Real World RelationshipsCont
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“The meeting of two personalities
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with a submissive. He can choose to
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and I was serving in the Army, stat
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inclined to be as sympathetic as I
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True, the odds of that person being
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few days. Allot yourselves plenty o
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it and drive across it slowly and d
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asking yourselves is, is this the b
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First Meetings: Sheila’s StoryWhe
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were invariably ignored. John Edwar
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aka Slavemaster, lived with his wif
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but you also need to be able to tru
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important phone numbers and having
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The article examined the difference
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where you want your relationship to
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think I can do that.”Three days l
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Chapter 9: BDSM Toys & SafetyTypica
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It is not uncommon for some people
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Types of BDSM Toys & EquipmentWe co
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of his or her extremities for loss
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SleevesA BDSM sleeve is typically a
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order to escape smoke or fire.Harne
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Straps are often used in lieu of ro
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thing they all have in common is th
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plugs may also be susceptible to cr
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Impact GearBDSM impact gear is used
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the construction of paddles, but th
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these functions include sensation,
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strike, which can be far more probl
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has the potential to cause serious
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sensations. A significant part of t
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Piercing, Scarification & BrandingA
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bacterial soap, and use a fingernai
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was originally designed to be used
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person, but if you or your subject
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mask when engaging in this sort of
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the distant presence of an unfamili
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emergency signal that can be commun
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patented and trademarked product of
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physical, psychological, and sexual
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that is extremely low amperage, but
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EMS stands for Electrical Muscle St
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body part the electrical current fl
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torsion is another serious risk tha
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subject. Anyone who has ever gotten
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When it comes to safety, irritants
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cotton swab on a wooden stick, simi
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Cupping should be avoided by people
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Hot WaxHot wax play isn’t just fo
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your artistic talents, or just enjo
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reigns, plumes, harnesses, spurs, a
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inexpensive, and may even already b
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BDSM FurnitureBDSM furniture is a t
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bottom’s buttocks prominently and
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used to restrain the hands and neck
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suddenly discover a phobia of being
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My Two Cents on BDSM ToysThe year w
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“I refuse to join any club that w
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names, to draw attention to this br
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which often consist of families wit
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At best, you’ll embarrass yoursel
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makes youuncomfortable, turn your a
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you should resist the temptation to
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concerned.Don’t use it as a place
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revisiting it here, in our discussi
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furnishings, such as racks, platfor
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their own towel to sit on if they
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to separate the wheat from the chaf
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lifestyle-friendly businesses.If do
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fact, exactly what he did.In a path
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Chapter 11: Sex, Love, D/s, & BDSMP
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see naked, anyway.”“Apparently,
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Mistaking Love for BDSMPeople confu
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porn, and Natalie promised to keep
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well.It is unfortunate that Ian and
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“This is crazy; seriously crazy!
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Mark pondered her words and her emo
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I think D/s is sexy.My Two Cents on
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“The more you love, the more you
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for their mother, or for that matte
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should be able to marry whomever th
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Francisco area from 1971 until 1991
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Attention.It’s often easy to assu
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Potential Pitfalls of a Poly Relati
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· Don’t introduce new partners i
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members of the household before you
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Even positive changes can result in
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We don’t feel the need to drop on
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of the group are considered to be m
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Polyfuckery. A derisive term used t
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It seriously just kills me that I s
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Chapter 13: D/s, BDSM, & ReligionIt
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D/s and Judaism: Could Lead to Mixe
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D/s and Islam: Keep Your Clothes On
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haram under Islamic law. For exampl
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Tantric Buddhism involves harnessin
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that would today be considered typi
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own personal spirituality. Even so,
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United States, one can find a wide
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without sex, it’s relatively comm
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is subject unto Christ, so let the
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Another of Jesus’ unconventional
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Filling a VoidI wrote this chapter
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I think religion in general has unf
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Chapter 14: What Could Possibly Go
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Possible insights ahead. Use ‘em,
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dysfunctional D/s relationships tha
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understand what she’s done wrong
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lifestyle, I could easily adopt a t
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and submissives, and even went into
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such cases certainly favors a train
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betrayed by the little dots at the
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A folk tale that is often used to i
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Role reversal is characterized by a
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church, the community at large, or
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from now? Some states have recently
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“No, Dad.” I replied, “Techni
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such statements, but this woman was
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and experiences, much less tell you
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Avoiding the Train WreckIt may seem
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Thank you so much!I thought about i
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Chapter 15: Rainbows & UnicornsThis
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not as much of a pervert as you mig
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My Two Cents on HappinessGuess what
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“When I use a word,” Humpty Dum
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scenarios involving coercion, humil
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the law typically takes a dim view
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a submissive, passive, receiving or
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Torture)Catheterization. Catheteriz
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revoked. Alternately, a submissive
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submissive. A day collar may consis
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Eloctrostimulation. (See Electricit
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Flogger. A small hand-held whip wit
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activity with a person of the oppos
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any kind of rape fantasy does not m
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Hair Pulling. Refers to being sexua
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Injection Play. Injection play refe
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refuse, subject to circumstances, p
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another on aspects of the D/s or BD
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play, Spanking)Painslut. The painsl
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consider such activity as “intima
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trait, while furryism is more a mat
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ramifications. This sort of play is
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(See also: BDSM, Masochism, Sadisti
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in it, since this is an activity th
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another’s, and sanity can be hard
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general categories. BDSM Switches a
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Torture. Torture refers to any sust
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role playing as pet and veterinaria
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Appendix B: Silly Shit Mike Makai S
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much else matters. No one asks why
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Appendix C: About the AuthorMichael
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