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are far more prevalent online than in real-life. Even so, the influence and impactthat they have exercised upon the D/s culture in general cannot be understated.It should be noted, however, that many of the overtlysexual beliefs and practices of the Gorean subculture come not from the Gornovels at all, but from a work of non-fiction by Lange, written in 1974under the pseudonym John Norman, called “Imaginative Sex.” We should alsotake a moment to acknowledge here that Lange has never endorsed the notion ofadopting, in any way, the customs or ethics of the fictional planet Gor. Langehas studiously refused to sanction, recognize,participate or cooperate in any way with the popular subculture that his novelshave inspired. The closest that he has come to doing so has been as astrong advocate for strengthening marriages through the use of fantasies andsexual role-play to bring about a couple’s “sexual liberation.”As long as we’re discussing some of the minor details which don’t quite seem tofit the preconceived notions held by manyabout Gor, this is probably a good time to mention that Goreans generallyconsider themselves a part of the D/s culture, but not the BDSMculture. Their reasoning is typically based on the belief that Gor isa philosophy and a way of life that fits neatly within the D/s worldview, ratherthan an assemblage of activities, techniques or scenes. Most Goreans (quiterightly, in my view) see BDSM as something you do, versus D/s as beingsomething you are. Even so, just as there will always be a great deal of overlapwhen it comes to BDSMand D/s, one should also expect to find aspects of Gor just about anywhere youlook in either lifestyle.
What Do Goreans Really Believe?If we’re going to discuss what Goreans really believe, we must be willing tomake a distinction between what is described in the Gor novels, what is actuallypreached and practiced by those in the real-world Gorean subculture, and how itis misinterpreted and caricatured by chat room role players who, more often thannot, have never actually read any of the novels. As if all of that isn’t alreadyenough to make your head spin, we’ll finish up with some real-life true storiesinvolving the Gorean lifestyle. Good times ahead; get in, buckle up, and hangon.Over the course of writing thirty-two novels about the planet Gor, Normanmeticulously developed and refined his vision of Gorean culture and traditions.Considering the contemporary standards for the pulp fiction genre within whichhe worked, many found Norman’s vision to be surprisingly consistent andcogent. This is significant when one considers the fact that contemporaryGoreans attempt to emulate, as much as possible, the cultural beliefs andpractices of Gorean society. According to Norman’s novels, the “Three Pillars”of Gorean society are Home Stone, Caste, and Natural Order.Home Stone. The home stone is representative of Gorean sovereignty, whichcan be applicable to a home, village, or city. It is typically a small stone markedwith a letter or symbol, and displayed in the center of the sovereign territory itrepresents. It is, in some ways, analogous to the way we use flags as symbols ofour sovereign nation-states. A practicing real-life Gorean would mostly likelyadopt and apply this concept to reinforce the notion that he is the sovereign rulerof his home.Caste. Goreans are defined primarily by their caste, which is based primarily onprofession and city. There are some castes designated as high castes (comprisedof those in governance and other elites) or low castes (comprised primarily oftradesmen and craftsmen). The application of this concept by real-worldGoreans is generally manifested in the high esteem they typically place on aperson’s practical skills and warrior ethos.Natural Order. In the Gorean culture, it is considered part of the natural orderthat males are considered to be naturally dominant, while females are consideredto be inherently submissive. Even so, there are many significant exceptions tothe rule, even on the fictional world of Gor. The practical end result, however, is
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are far more prevalent online than in real-life. Even so, the influence and impact
that they have exercised upon the D/s culture in general cannot be understated.
It should be noted, however, that many of the overtly
sexual beliefs and practices of the Gorean subculture come not from the Gor
novels at all, but from a work of non-fiction by Lange, written in 1974
under the pseudonym John Norman, called “Imaginative Sex.” We should also
take a moment to acknowledge here that Lange has never endorsed the notion of
adopting, in any way, the customs or ethics of the fictional planet Gor. Lange
has studiously refused to sanction, recognize,
participate or cooperate in any way with the popular subculture that his novels
have inspired. The closest that he has come to doing so has been as a
strong advocate for strengthening marriages through the use of fantasies and
sexual role-play to bring about a couple’s “sexual liberation.”
As long as we’re discussing some of the minor details which don’t quite seem to
fit the preconceived notions held by many
about Gor, this is probably a good time to mention that Goreans generally
consider themselves a part of the D/s culture, but not the BDSM
culture. Their reasoning is typically based on the belief that Gor is
a philosophy and a way of life that fits neatly within the D/s worldview, rather
than an assemblage of activities, techniques or scenes. Most Goreans (quite
rightly, in my view) see BDSM as something you do, versus D/s as being
something you are. Even so, just as there will always be a great deal of overlap
when it comes to BDSM
and D/s, one should also expect to find aspects of Gor just about anywhere you
look in either lifestyle.
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