Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

submissive the ability to choose which particular aspects of their lives she’ll turn
over to her Dominant to control. It also often defines which parts of the
relationship are real versus the parts that are role-played, and may set limits on
what is, or is not, acceptable behavior for either partner. Though many
submissives consider themselves “owned” by their Dominants, the reality is,
they are submissive partners, not property.
Online Relationship Slave Contract
As we stated earlier in this chapter, slave contracts are far more common in the
online BDSM culture than anywhere else, for fairly obvious reasons. An online
relationship slave contract serves several purposes that are practically tailormade
for the internet culture. For example, when contact with your partner may
be limited to just a few minutes or hours each day or less, it may be difficult to
communicate one’s expectations and assumptions to your partner in the limited
time that you have. It therefore becomes useful to have a document that can be
referred to and studied when your partner is not online. It serves an educational
function. The online slave contract also gives the partners in an online
relationship something that is seemingly tangible and authoritative, in an
environment where practically nothing else is. It makes the whole thing seem
more real. Finally, online slave contracts help to instill a sense of obligation and
responsibility towards the relationship, even though the internet culture in
general seems to encourage just the opposite. The lyrics of a song called “Do
You Want to Date my Avatar,” by Felicia Day and the Guild, illustrate this
tendency perfectly: “And if you think I’m not the one, log-off! Log-off, and we’ll
be done!”
The major differences between online slave contracts and real-world contracts
are the provisions which make certain allowances for the fleeting nature of
online relationships, the time constraints, the anonymity of participants, and the
disclosure of personal information. Since many online relationships exist in
secrecy and in addition to the participants’ real-world relationships, the potential
for wreaking havoc in each other’s personal lives is almost always high. Hence,
there are almost always clauses in these kinds of slave contracts which
emphasize the importance of discretion and privacy.
Owner/pet Contract
An Owner/pet contract is similar in some ways to a Master/slave contract,