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“The slave may not seek any other Master or lover, nor relate to others ina sexual or submissive way without the Master's permission. To do so willbe considered a breach of contract, and will result in extreme punishment.The Master may accept other slaves or lovers, but must consider theslave's emotional response to such actions and act accordingly. Under nocircumstance will the Master allow such actions to unbalance the slaveemotionally, nor allow such actions to result in ignoring the slave.”Not only are we left to hypothesize on the true meaning of “relate to others in asexual or submissive way,” but we’re also left scratching our heads over what itmeans to “consider the slave’s emotional response.” The Dominant wouldobviously be free to say, “I have considered it, and am dismissing it asunimportant.” Just to make thing fair, however, the submissive has a nifty littlelegal loophole of her own. No matter what the Master does, the submissive canalways claim that his actions have emotionally unbalanced her, since there is nodefinition of what that means. Aren’t slave contracts fun?So, let’s recap. Slave contracts aren’t legal, and even if they were, they wouldbe largely unenforceable due to fuzzy language and the general impossibility ofdefining such things as love, respect, abuse, manipulation, mind games, oremotions. Even so, slave contracts have always been around, and always willbe. Get used to seeing them, and discussing them, and try not to laugh out loudwhen you do.The following are a few of the different kinds of slave contracts you may findbeing used:Master/slave ContractThe Master and his slave enter into an agreement which requires the slave torelinquish all personal rights, property, finances and decision making powers tothe Master. Typically, the slave is required to consider her “mind, body, andsoul” to be the Master’s property, practice full disclosure of her thoughts andactions at all times, and give up the right to say “no” to any of the Master’sdirectives.Dominant/submissive ContractThe terms of a Dominant/submissive contract are typically less stringent thanthose of the Master/slave contract. A Dominant/submissive contract gives the

submissive the ability to choose which particular aspects of their lives she’ll turnover to her Dominant to control. It also often defines which parts of therelationship are real versus the parts that are role-played, and may set limits onwhat is, or is not, acceptable behavior for either partner. Though manysubmissives consider themselves “owned” by their Dominants, the reality is,they are submissive partners, not property.Online Relationship Slave ContractAs we stated earlier in this chapter, slave contracts are far more common in theonline BDSM culture than anywhere else, for fairly obvious reasons. An onlinerelationship slave contract serves several purposes that are practically tailormadefor the internet culture. For example, when contact with your partner maybe limited to just a few minutes or hours each day or less, it may be difficult tocommunicate one’s expectations and assumptions to your partner in the limitedtime that you have. It therefore becomes useful to have a document that can bereferred to and studied when your partner is not online. It serves an educationalfunction. The online slave contract also gives the partners in an onlinerelationship something that is seemingly tangible and authoritative, in anenvironment where practically nothing else is. It makes the whole thing seemmore real. Finally, online slave contracts help to instill a sense of obligation andresponsibility towards the relationship, even though the internet culture ingeneral seems to encourage just the opposite. The lyrics of a song called “DoYou Want to Date my Avatar,” by Felicia Day and the Guild, illustrate thistendency perfectly: “And if you think I’m not the one, log-off! Log-off, and we’llbe done!”The major differences between online slave contracts and real-world contractsare the provisions which make certain allowances for the fleeting nature ofonline relationships, the time constraints, the anonymity of participants, and thedisclosure of personal information. Since many online relationships exist insecrecy and in addition to the participants’ real-world relationships, the potentialfor wreaking havoc in each other’s personal lives is almost always high. Hence,there are almost always clauses in these kinds of slave contracts whichemphasize the importance of discretion and privacy.Owner/pet ContractAn Owner/pet contract is similar in some ways to a Master/slave contract,

“The slave may not seek any other Master or lover, nor relate to others in

a sexual or submissive way without the Master's permission. To do so will

be considered a breach of contract, and will result in extreme punishment.

The Master may accept other slaves or lovers, but must consider the

slave's emotional response to such actions and act accordingly. Under no

circumstance will the Master allow such actions to unbalance the slave

emotionally, nor allow such actions to result in ignoring the slave.”

Not only are we left to hypothesize on the true meaning of “relate to others in a

sexual or submissive way,” but we’re also left scratching our heads over what it

means to “consider the slave’s emotional response.” The Dominant would

obviously be free to say, “I have considered it, and am dismissing it as

unimportant.” Just to make thing fair, however, the submissive has a nifty little

legal loophole of her own. No matter what the Master does, the submissive can

always claim that his actions have emotionally unbalanced her, since there is no

definition of what that means. Aren’t slave contracts fun?

So, let’s recap. Slave contracts aren’t legal, and even if they were, they would

be largely unenforceable due to fuzzy language and the general impossibility of

defining such things as love, respect, abuse, manipulation, mind games, or

emotions. Even so, slave contracts have always been around, and always will

be. Get used to seeing them, and discussing them, and try not to laugh out loud

when you do.

The following are a few of the different kinds of slave contracts you may find

being used:

Master/slave Contract

The Master and his slave enter into an agreement which requires the slave to

relinquish all personal rights, property, finances and decision making powers to

the Master. Typically, the slave is required to consider her “mind, body, and

soul” to be the Master’s property, practice full disclosure of her thoughts and

actions at all times, and give up the right to say “no” to any of the Master’s

directives.

Dominant/submissive Contract

The terms of a Dominant/submissive contract are typically less stringent than

those of the Master/slave contract. A Dominant/submissive contract gives the

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