Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

consideration are also collars of protection; however, not all collars of protection
are collars of consideration. The reason for this is simple. Sometimes, a
Dominant will extend his protection to a submissive out of friendship or charity,
even though neither person has any intention whatsoever of establishing a more
serious relationship with the other as a consequence. The actual nature of the socalled
protection offered to the submissive in these circumstances can vary
widely from person to person. As a general rule, it includes offering advice and
guidance, approving play partners and events, and interviewing and/or approving
prospective Dominants who may wish to consider the submissive. A typical
recipient of a collar of protection is a submissive who is brand new to the
lifestyle, or perhaps one who has recently been released by her Dominant. One
of the most useful aspects of a collar of protection is simply the way it serves
notice to other Dominants that this submissive is being looked after by someone
who is experienced in the lifestyle and has her best interests at heart.
Training Collar
A training collar is, for many submissives, the logical second step that follows a
short period of consideration and decision to move forward into a more serious
and committed relationship. It serves as recognition that, while a more intense
and formal relationship is desired by both parties, there is still much to be
learned by the submissive before a formal collar can be offered. Previously, if
the submissive wore a collar of consideration or a collar of protection, her
actions would not reflect upon the Dominant in any significant way. Now,
however, every action by a submissive in a training collar reflects directly upon
the Dominant, telegraphing to everyone his competence - or lack thereof – as a
trainer of submissives. This can also be a period of great stress and contention
as the Dominant and submissive adjust to their new roles in the relationship, and
learn to reconcile their expectations and preconceptions with reality. Even those
who have a great deal of experience in D/s and BDSM relationships will have a
lot of adjusting to do, since no two D/s relationship dynamics are the same, and
each individual has his or her own quirks, limitations, and unique character
traits.
The training phase is also where a Dominant and his submissive should work out
the details of how they will handle conflict, what the rules and protocols that are
unique to this relationship will be, how discipline will be applied when and if it
becomes necessary, and what levels of trust must be achieved before the