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Play Collar

A play collar is any collar that is worn primarily for utilitarian purposes during a

BDSM play session. Typically, play collars are constructed of leather or metal,

but they can literally be made of any material that is appropriate for the type of

play that is going to take place. The most common type of play collar used in

bondage scenes are constructed of durable leather and heavy-duty steel D-rings

which facilitate the attachment of chains, straps, rope, or other restraints to the

collar. Other types of play collars may include posture collars, neck corsets,

steel lockable collars, rubber or PVC collars, medical (cervical) collars, ball

gag collars, bit gag collars, or hooded collars. For obvious reasons, play collars

are not common in the online BDSM culture.

Collar of Consideration

A collar of consideration is a provisional collar that is offered by a Dominant to

a submissive that he is considering as a potential submissive who will

presumably become eligible for a collar of greater significance and commitment

at the end of the probationary period. It is typically used to give some

recognition to the process of getting to know each other by formalizing a

tentative commitment by a submissive to discontinue shopping for a Dominant

while being considered by this one, and by the Dominant to treat her as his own

for the duration of the agreement. The terms of this tentative agreement should

be negotiated prior to the collaring, and are typically set to expire after a

relatively short period of time. This is designed to prevent a submissive from

being strung-along by an indecisive Dominant for an indefinite period of time.

If, at any time during the agreed-upon consideration period, either party decides

that a more serious relationship is not worth pursuing further, that party is

permitted to unilaterally withdraw from the agreement without fault or blame.

Collars of consideration are far more common in the online BDSM culture than

they are in real-life. There are many reasons for this, including the inherent

difficulty of getting to know someone in a purely online environment, the added

complications related to role-playing, and an overabundance of the merely

curious and clueless.

Collar of Protection

A collar of protection is similar in many ways to a collar of consideration, and in

fact, there are usually a lot of areas of overlapping functionality. Most collars of

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