Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

adornments such as rhinestones or metal studs. But in reality, a collar is just as
likely to be a fashionable choker or ribbon, or even a
conventional looking gold or silver chain with a pendant. The bottom line
is a collar may be anything that the individuals in a relationship mutually
agree upon. This applies equally to the rules governing the wear of the
collar. For some, a collar is something that should never be removed,
under any circumstances. For others, the collar is worn only in the
bedroom or at BDSM group functions. It is generally a good idea to ensure
that any rules specifying what is or isn’t appropriate, when it comes to when,
where and how the collar is worn in your relationship, be established before the
collar is padlocked around your neck.
As long as we’re discussing physical collars here, we should take the
opportunity to discuss something that is, for many,
the bewildering and often frustrating phenomenon of online collars.
An online collar, for our purposes, is defined as a collar that represents the
relationship between two people who have never actually met in real life.
This would also include solid, three-dimensional collars that are sent by
Dominants to submissives whom they have never actually met, in reality.
At the risk of engaging in a generalization that will probably anger and offend
some readers, here’s what I think of online collars: They are just like real-life
collars, except less so. By that, I mean that they are less real and less significant
in practically every possible aspect, save one – the emotions associated with it.
The emotions associated with an online collar can be very real and very strong,
however,